You have thought of the serious effects that leaving would have on the children. If you split your family up to be "happier" and it fell through, then what ? You have the responsibility to teach your children about life and the meaning of family. What would they think if you made them experience the pain that it would involve when the fact is that you have a husband, their father, that is not harming you in anyway. Get closer to your husband. Read some books about reconnecting and ways to inhance your marriage. Go to a websight dailystrength.org . There are so many ways to build on what you have, Your family needs you to be strong. I have gone through life on the other end. I have 3 beautiful children and have raised them by myself. I mean with the help of my family, The, what I call sperm donor, became addicted to alcohol and began to abuse us, he is prison. It could be so much worse. This person that you married is not perfect. None of us are. Give yourself worth and meaning by bringing your family closer. Don't be ungrateful ! Get the most out of your family life by not hurting the people that depend on you to be a leader, teacher, and friend. What if your husband left you for the same reason ? Would that make it right ? Would it be easy to not to feel betrayed ? When your children sat in front of you crying and telling you how much they miss the way that things used to be, what would you tell them ? What is really important to you ? Make it a point to grow spiritually. Take the time to realize that the grass is not always greener on the other side. In fact it can be very brown because of the fact that when you make a decision that has such detremental effects on your psyche, you will never be able to recover the piece of mind that enables you to be truly happy. Take the time to discover what you can do for others by volunteering with the sick in a hospital or maybe with some organization that helps feed or clothe the hungry and deprived children of your community. What you give is what you get. Life is not about getting, but about giving. You are very fortunate to have a healthy family and the ability to establish a safe home where all of you can prosper. Think about it, Close your eyes and think deeply about how you would feel to lose what you wake up to everyday. I often used to think if only if I could have just one thing different. All the times that I had bruises all over my body from having to protect myself from a person that I loved with all my heart. The pain that I endured watching this man destroy everything that we had worked so hard for. And I wouldn't change anything because when I was able to grow from pain, I am able to be grateful for what I have. I watch and read about the people that this very moment are coming home in a body bag from around the world that are giving their lives to make this world a better place to live in. Hopefully. What do you think you would be feeling if you were the wife of one of these people that just lost his life fighting for our freedom ? You would just want to be able to hold your husband just one more time and tell him how much you believe in him. Be the one to be living the dream right where you are. God Bless You and Your Family, Kim
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RE: Help and advice needed
RE: WAISTING MY TIME
I am in the same situation. I have gotten online today and decided to look for ways to volunteer my time to keep my mind off of him. I am not going to be able to be happy unless I take time to heal from the pain that i am feeling and what better way to heal than spend some of my extra time with other people. I love this man more than anything in the world and will become a better person coming to terms with the reality that if he truly wants to commit his heart to me, then he will make the decision to do what is right and stop playing with my emotions. I want to be happy and we have to make the choice to let go of the situations that cause us confusion so that we can focus on the life and contentment that we deserve. I have always taken the hard road. Believed that what doesn't kill me, will only make me stronger. Men and women are totally different in all aspects. I want to suggest that You take the time to read any book by Barbara DeAngelis that you can get your hands on if you already haven't done so !!!! You have a choice to make commitments to yourself and have a relationship that satisfies your emotional, physical, and spiritual needs, and this may not come for awhile, but as long as you are still involved with with anyone that is not willing to put your heart and soul before their own needs, I beleive that you or anyone else (me) will have a hard time being in control of changing the quality of your life. What do you need to be truly happy ? What are you worth ? Where do you see yourself if you don't take the time to change what doesn't feel right ? I fight with these issues everyday, I want to be loved and held and kissed and romanced and and touched and squeezed and the list goes on and on and on. I don't want someone that is not going to think enough of me to be faithful and that is what I put up with ? Wake up every day and know that the right person is out there !