I don't think he is a bad person. He is a wonderful guy and he treated me well and was very sweet to me. I think the major problem here is he started dating sooner than he should have. I don't think he is out to hurt me and even if we gave it one more try many things would have to change we wouldn't just pick up where we left off. It not that it made me sad because I used to care about him. I still do. Yet in all of this I am looking out for me. I say this because I want me to be happy. I haven't been "happy" these past three months. So only time will tell

This morning I recieve an email from my ex, several actually. He says first I hope you had a good thanksgiving and I am sorry for the way things turned out not a day goes by that I don't think of you and then says, one day i hope that we can reconnect you are very special to me and I have missed you. It made me a little sad. It brought tears to my eyes. I am not sure why. I have been doing so well. I haven't been around for a while I am FINALLY getting things back on track. I don't know what does this mean? I assume I would not be hearing from him if things were going well but I assume they are not. Any input or advice would be greatly appreciated thank you

As an aries I have to disagree with some of this. I do not just barge in. It is incredibly hard for me to trust so I am always on the look out for everything. I immediately pick up on when something is wrong in a relationship. I do not at all feel that I am disconnected.

With family and friends I am happy go lucky exuberant and all of that but in matters of the heart I am much more careful and guarded.

Personally I do not think being unlucky in love is because of our sign. I believe that not every relationship is meant to be permanent and as women we tend to believe it will be because we are programed to want that happily ever after. I am not sure if I make sense but thats how I feel

I do not believe there are soulmates. I think with a common foundation and mutual love and respect and a dash of passion and a common desire to work and grow together you can have a good relationship with someone who isn't your soulmate. The concept of a soulmate in my opinion has cause of so much misery people who spend years upon years looking for something, that perfect man that they never find.

I had a reading once that said my first boyfriend a capricorn was my soulmate and you know what he broke my heart. At the time I was 20 he was 29. We managed to remain friends and now more than 5 years after we broke up he comes to the conclusion that I am his soulmate and he was looking and looking when it was right under his nose. Only thing is he is so wrong. I am not his soulmate. We have easy conversation but I am not in love with him. I love him as a person, us splitting up was the best thing that ever happened to me. In the time we have broken up I've met amazing people and amazing men. Don't get trapped by the idea of a soulmate and miss out on the opportunity to meet new people. Of the almost 7 billion people on this earth if you spend it waiting for this one perfect person you will probably be waiting for more than one lifetime. Live for now that is just my humble opinion

So I keep updating this thread as time passes and things you have told me in the past seem to work out. You said things wouldn't work out very well for my ex and his ex. Well apparently they are not. From what I understand at the moment they are still together (although living separately) but they are currently not speaking to each other. So their relationship is well on its way to being over. I can only assume the event you said would happen that would cause wake up and realize its over has happened. In addition to this he tried sending me a friend request on facebook (which I ignored) I feel that it would have been a way for him to keep tabs on me. I am not sure what the future holds but I am kind of at peace. I still have my bad days but I am getting there

So I am basically finished with school and despite all the years I have invested in my education I cannot find a job to save my life. I am too over qualified for some jobs and not enough work experience for others. Its like damned if you do, damned if you don't. Its awfully depressing because I think I am intelligent, well spoken, confident but what is going on will this change sometime soon? I have wonderful parents who are willing to help out until I find the right situation but at 25 I can't let my parents take care of me. Will my situation improve before the end of the year?

I didn't take it to heart. If you think the post was filled with how wonderful my ex was I think you should probably read it again. There are about 8 or 9 words in the post where I describe my ex. The rest of the post is a description of the person Matt is. I am sorry if you misunderstood what I was saying. There is no need to apologize absolutely no harm done

thanks i hope it will be

Thank you 1. For understanding what I was asking 2. For giving positive advice. I agree I am seeing him its light its easy but he wants a label now and for me its scary. But he is a nice guy so I try to go with the flow

Hi,

I am not comparing, they are two totally different people so comparison would be silly. Thank you anyway