lovinmylife- Nope, you are not offending me at all coz I know you mean well. To answer your question- I probably just want company. As I grow older, the magic of settling down disappears...you know finding a man who would sweep me off my feet, someone who would make the birds sing, the flowers bloom...who make the world colorful. Hookup? ...i'm not really dying for it, but once in a while may be ok. Come to think of it, you are giving me introspection. Maybe I don't really know what I want after all and that "blocks" my powers. As for your cousin, maybe he has to start to be happy with himself somehow. Somehow I can sense the emptiness and the feeling of lacking. Maybe your cousin and I should search the answers within.
(I can relate to your cousin. Although I'm not funny, I'm sincere and good-looking, [they say]) and nice (I hope).