As a proud cancer male im here to defend my name. I know in my head that there is no love like mine and that I have a way of somehow breaking through a girls heart. But that is because I know how she wants to be treated. I know that she wants to be shown certain things that I like to call fairty-tale realities at times. and that sometimes many women just want someone who wont hurt them. And as a Cancer Male I dont want to hurt anyone, I value peoples feelings, espeically those of the opposite sex because I hope in turn they will value mine, and I feel that is the only way that it should be. If it isint like that then it shouldnt be because then it is also true that I can be hurt. I dont wanna feel pain. So it makes sense dosent it. Treat people the way you want to be treated.
sometimes its hard even figuring myself out. Ive found when i retreat into my shell depending on the circumstances if it has to do with a love issue or gf issue etc etc it can take anywhere from a few minutes to hours to weeks.....The bigger the "harm" the greater the retreat.
But ive done so many caring deeds for those who I felt and deemed worthy. But everytime ive opened up Ive been hurt hard. Its not that we are scared. Because we arent. The fact we even come out of our shells at all says the GREAT RISKS we are willing to take with our lives and our hearts and our souls. We retreat because the risk in question is against our favor. It has nothing to do with being scared
I am not scared to fall in love. I would love it. no pun intended. But if I do not see some effort some sure sign some way that lets me know that okay theres a 75% chance(just picking a number) then Im not ready. I need 100% from someone, so I can give them mine. I guess you could say cancer men need to be assured that what they are gonna get is the genuine real deal.
When we test you, we want to know how much we really mean to you...I just came out of this whole scenario and she failed miserably and she was a cancer! she was unaware of the test. or perhaps we tested each other without knowing..because at first I didnt realize what was going on till a week into it when I told myself she doesnt care because she hasnt called...a week after only to realize hey did we just play each other.
Life is a game. No matter what you may want to believe whether you want to be a player or not. Love is a game as well. We all play it differently. The cancer male is no different. Our strategies might seem complex but find yourself a Cancer Male friend ask him what the hell he thinks...Sit down and tell him you are not gonna disappear from his life that you really want to be his friend, and understand him. One day he will come to you and tell you his soul till then confide in him he will enjoy listening and giving advice. Till he is ready to do the same to you...When he has dont take it for granted you have made a true friend out of him!