Jenever7,

Ok so I asked him if he was upset about me going for a soda with my other friend. He said he had forgotten all about till now and asked if there was something going on. I told him no, of course not. He said he would never tell who I could be friends with and to chill out. We did talk more about us and it seems that his life was going unchecked while we were talking so much and being together. So that's why he had to slow down. He says he loves me but we cant talk as much as we used to. He also said he needed to reconnect with his kids. That I totally understand and would never step in between that. I asked him if he wanted to end it. He asked me too. I said no, then he said he didn't want to either, it would just not be so much talking and getting together as it was.

My husband is permanently disabled. He isn't going to die soon but is going down hill.

I'm just not sure if he is saying all these things because he doesn't want to hurt me or if he really does love me. I asked him this and he gets defensive and says of course he loves me and wouldn't continue if he didn't.

I do know alot of his secrets, which I've read is rare for Virgos to share things like that sometimes. But he did say one thing that was strange. He said, his financial problems always happen when he is dishonest like this. I asked about dishonest and he said cheating on his wife and lying. so Im suspecting that he has done this before. When I asked him about that, he said there are some things he will never share. That was a big eye opener to me. It answered the question without him actually answering.

I'm trying hard to just leave him alone. I don't text unless he does first. He always text first thing in the morning and says goodnight everynight, but I'm not sure of what to do.

I could go on and on, but my thoughts are so mixed up right now. I hope all this makes sense somehow.

Thanks for at least reading and replying for more info on this.

I know that it is wrong to begin with to have an affair but he swept me off my feet. We both are missing things in our marriages that we supposedly satisfied with each other. Not just physically. He said he only got married because his girlfriend got pregnant and his family made him do it. He says he is willing to wait for me since my husband is disabled.

I have stumbled upon this site being distraught recently about the relationship I am having with a Virgo man. We are both married, with children. I just realized I should check his sign to see why he started telling me he needed space.

We have been seeing each other steadily for the past 5 months. We text ALL the time until last week. I'm not sure exactly what happened. A few things happened in one or two days to lead to suspect but cant figure out. I'm afraid of asking him what's happening because he may not answer or may give me some lame excuse.

Ok, so the things that happened were 1) I was going to meet him at our college before classes but he had to take his wife to the doctor. She had a small emergency that ended up being nothing but panic attack. 2) While I was waiting for him a friend of mine, who is a prick sometimes, was there and he offered to take me for a soda and I could see HIS new car. Of course I said sure. I didn't have anything else going on but waiting for the time being. When I got back to the college, I realized my Virgo had texted me 3 times to see where I was. He say me drive up with the other guy. I told him what happened and he seemed bugged for a minute then he was ok after that. We even got together after class to be physical. It was great! Whew!! Ok, so the next day we talked on the phone on his breaks but later he told me he needed his space because of some financial delalings that came up, which he told me about. I figured that was the problem so I didn't think so much about the other guy till later. Don't know if he is using that financial problem as an excuse for hiding what he is really feeling. Since then he isn't texting very often. No more, sweet talk, calling me lovely mushy names. Telling me he loves me all the time is out.

I have noticed a trend here with other Virgo men. I don't want to get pulled along for years to come and get so wrapped up in whether he is gonna be with me someday. Which he says he wants to marry me someday. Calling me by his surname(mushy, I know) But now it has all stopped. He says he loves me a few times a day but doesnt want to talk on his breaks anymore, or have lunch together.

PLEASE HELP ME!!!!