Hey cosmic trender it is a big world out there. virgo is 30 degrees of your horoscope wheel. to say you cannot get along with Virgo's is really saying there is a part of you that you cannot get along with. And since you are a Virgo rsing, which depending which decanate, you could be taking a wonderful hit from Pluto which happens every 248 years. this may be a wonderful time for you to re-birth and transform aspects of yourself. With virgo as your first house this starts your personality and the hat you wear to the world. The way you described Virgo was very crabby and picky....the more negative traits associated with Virgo. I would say look to the opposite sign Pisces for unquestioned acceptance in regards to the Virgos you meet out there in the world. You may say you are not like a Virgo but you did a good job there of expressing it.......and we chose which traits we show to the world. No I do not mean this critically.....just analytically. As an observation.
You see I am a Virgo rising as well....and a Virgo sun and I have Jupiter conjunct my sun and rising. this makes me super virgo.
Virgo's have a great capacity for order but, like you, you would not believe if you say my house.....it is clean but not neat. But I have quite a number of businesses and work I do in the world and am able to keep things organzied in my head on a grand scale...at least I hope this is true. So while virgo has this rep of being small minded and nit-picking (and I was the lice queen when my children came home from school with lice) they also have the rep of quietly cleaning up the messes of the rest of the world.....restoring order the world.....and the willingness to be the least. And if this is true than on some level they have put the egoic forces behind them.
So embrace your Virgo....learn where you are Virgo...and use it to your advantage......after all we are all players in the glass bead game.....the game of life.