I agree with everything said before this. we all have a purpose in and a "Mission" in our lives and the lives of others. Everyone we meet, everyone in our lives are there for a reason and we in thiers. We all have challenges we ourselves, our souls/spirits, chose to confront in our lifetimes to learn, to grow and to evolve. we do not chose challenges we cannot overcome but it is okay to "fail". There is no failure. God does not punish us or become disappointed if we have trouble. Only sends unlimited Love and Compassion and hopes for his/her beloved creations to find that Love and open ourselves to it, and then share it! Remember, all our decisions are made from/out of either Love or fear.
There are no "victims".
Surrender to your anger, fear, sadness and it is transmuted. Allow yourself to grieve. Accept that everything is as it should be and we are all in "this" together. We feel each other's pain and passion. Compassion flows from here. Love and Compassion are our ultimate gift to each other.