Miraculously, today I felt like a weight was lifted from my shoulders. I spent Sunday night meditating and reading a few inspirational passages to remind myself that this too shall pass. I went to bed last night reminding myself that he did me a favor in removing himself from my life before I wasted more time with him. I stopped expecting answers on Sunday-48 hours after I caught him when he still hadn't contacted me. Regardless of his reason, the result is the same and I am better off without him.

It came to me today what Adrian's purpose was in my life. I agree that his role was to expose something I needed to address within me in order to better prepare me for the RIGHT man. I am too trusting and need to learn patience-even if I thought I moved slowly with him compared to men in the past. At any rate, I no longer hurt and crave answers. I am suddenly at peace and honestly feel its HIS LOSS, as I was nothing but good to him.

SweetGem, I am sorry you are going through such turmoil due to a man as well. I hope you find the peace to let him go knowing you deserve to be loved the RIGHT WAY, and learn to accept nothing less. That is what I am working on too.

I can tell you one things I did to help get to a better place emotionally with my situation: Lie in bed once you get ready to go to sleep and breath deeply as relaxe. Say this in your head as you inhale and exhale slowly, "

, I release you to the universe with exhale. Every breath I take in restores me and makes me whole." Imagine your feelings for him leaving your heart as you exhale and imagine the love, trust, and whatever you invested in him returning to you with every breath you take in.

May sound corny, but it has helped me. Best of luck-

Thanks Watergirl..as for "signs", they were there. I guess I made excuses for them or I allowed him to explain them away. I re-read your Halloween reading and pondered what "lesson" I am to learn from this. I really didn't go head-over-heels with him. I played it cool and slow-and HE pestured me for a commitment. Maybe once that came, I let my guard down and allowed things to speed out of control. I am definitely taking the time to assess what it is I am to take from this....patience was something that was a common theme, so I agree that it has to do with me learning patience. Thank you for responding!

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Please help me. I was dating a Gemini man whom I met in September, when this past weekend, this exploded. Things started off great, and for the past few months, were fine. The weekn of Thanksgivingm things changed, and he became distant. When I questioned this, he said I was accusing him of cheating and being insecure for no reason. Now Adrian had me feeling as though I was insecure and pushing him away with my unfounded in securites about him. He swore up and down he wasn't seeing anyone else, and I actually started feeling guity for doubting him. He said he wanted to work things out, yet his behavior still indicated to me that something was wrong.

Well, Friday. I'd had enough, and I asked God to show me what I needed to see tonight so I could get the answers I needed. Long story short, I drove to his home and found he had been on a date with another woman. Mind you, he had been texting me up to the moment he left with this woman, saying he could not see me that night as he was "busy" . When he returend from his date, I drove up as he was sitting in the car with the woman. He looked at me like a deer caught in headlights and told the woman not to open the care window. I yelled at him that all I wanted was to look him in his face after all the lies and games. I drove away feeling numb, and haven't contacted him since.

How could he be so cold and play such childinsh games? I've heard that Geminis are ruthless and can turn off their emotions in an instant but tihs is astounding to me. This is the very man who pursued me for a committed relationship and wooed me like I was a princess. He was just here a few weeks ago taking me grocery shopping, buying the groceries, opening my care door and putting me in the car, then loading the grceries in the trunk, driving me home, then putting the groceries away! HOW DO YOU GO GRO ALL IN TO ALL OUT JUST LIKE THAT?? I opened my heart to this man after swearing never to again, and this is how he has treated me.

I suspect he will treat this woman the same way eventually. But I can't understand why he just didn't tell me he didn't want to be with me when I asked him point blank up to the second this happened Friday. Was he just going to string us both along?

I know its best I forget all abot Adrian and MOVE ON. As a Pisces, that is not the easiest thing to do. I wish there was a was for me to just turn off emotionally as he is able to. He is the first Gemini (and last) I've dated, so I have no idea what to expect. WIll he contact me out of the blue as if nothing happened? Do you think he will apologize or try to explain himself at some point?

Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't get back with him regardless. I just need help understanding what he was doing/thinking/ whatever..

THANK YOU, Watergirl! LOL..wow...I am speechless. I can reate to exactly what the reading speaks of. There have been some serious clashes in terms of how Adrian and I view a certain issue. Today, it came to a "head" and culminated in a heated exchange between us. The good new is, it opened the door to a much-needed dialogue that made each of us really evaluate ourselves and our own motives and needs. I'm very familiar with that Huey Lewis song...I'll meditate on that and see how that figures into things. I guess my only question is whether things will/should move forward and progress with Adrian, or will/should things end now?

BRAVO, Captain. Wow! I can see glimpes of truths in that response already. We certainly are hitting the communication confusion you mentioned. Well, I so appreciate your insight! THANKS TONS!

oops..that post was for Watergirl..sorry, Daliolite!

WATERGIRL, If you are still taking Halloweeen readings, I'd like one please. I'd like to get some insight on the outcome of things with Adrian, b-day 6/16/68. We just started dating, and I more or less want to know if things will have a happy ending or not...or anything else you can gather. Thank you

Hello, Daliolite. If you are still taking Halloweeen readings, I'd like one please. I'd like to get some insight on the outcome of things with Adrian, b-day 6/16/68. We just started dating, and I more or less want to know if things will have a happy ending or not...or anything else you can gather. Thank you!

I recently met a Gemini man and I'd like some insight on things. We began talking back in late August, then finally met in person late September, and things have been non-stop ever since. I think we hit it off and he's actually asked to see me every Friday and Saturday since the day we first met. I must admit, the chemistry is great. Lately he's been asking me for a committed relationship, but I am hesitant to get it one yet.

Here's the issue: Basically, this coming weekend, he is having his retiremenent party after 20 years of military service. Its a big formal ordeal, but I'm not going. Seems the event was intended to be a "family affair", which his family began planning a year ago. According to him, he had no idea he'd meet anyone-let alone fall or anyone, so taking a date was never considered. My problem is the fact that he claims to be so into me (he took me to a familly function on our 3rd date, and he's constantly asking me for a committed relationship), yet he doesn't understand me being insulted that he hasn't invited me to his retiirement party. I can accept that its a "family only" event, but as I told him, I think the real reason he hasn't asked me to attend has more to do with his son's mother coming. Granted, we only started dating about a month ago, I am PO'd that he doesn't get why I am angry.

I need some insight. I don't know what to make of this. He has been an absolute chivalrous man from day 1 (opening doors, wooing me, going out of his way to win my affection)...I just need to know if I should give him the benefit of the doubt or cut and run. His b-day is June 16, 1968 and mine is March 4, 1971. THANKS!

Sounds like a Libra in Atlanta I dated....from my experience, they are womanizers, and very flirtatous. They can be very charming and make you feel as though you are the only woman in the world when in actuality, you are 1 of many he is splitting time with. I would say run for the hills! My Libra man strung me along for 8 months only to reveal that he was getting into a committed relationship with someone else. Do yourself a favor and walk away. Libra hate to be ignored. He will be back..trust me. Its on YOU to cut the ties and not allow him to use you.