Posts made by jasman1957

I find in times like this one has to listen to your own heart and let it guide you down that path. A man in love would desire to have you by his side not kick you to the curbe.

You need to walk away from the bonds you grew up with as well the people with the same ideals of your family to see the new out look for your life, mabe seek some help on the outside to gain some insite to you new life style

Or you will alway be trapped .

I wish you the best hope you have something to look forward to after your move, it's sad to not know for sure what awaits you after do to the inability so share time..

in my line of life i have met every kinds of human behavure ans personality. family upbringing has a lot more to do with interaction as to how open there family delt with problems and issues in there family circle. as far as signs go, that is not a standard to true insite to anyone by far.. No one can be held to a standard rule of thumb... It's only someone elses point of view... I love to read it for fun.. I find we all have a mate out there and at times of our life we attract a certain person in to our life and it works for so long basec on our ability to be honest with each other..

After reading your message, I have had friends in the same situation, The issue of family upbringing can cause many upsets when a family member goes againest traditions.. There is no obligation to follow in there foot steps and it has caused personal problems with your family, thou it is a personal choice to go your own way to find happiness. you may feel left out that is still a choice to find happiness.. Dont ever let them sway you in your leap of faith.. If they are unable to see you as a strong person and get behind you then you need to move away and find your true path and life your life to the fullest... Take care and dont ever give up...

I truly understand, in truth when a relationship is right there is no presure and it comes naturly and your driven to betogether no matter what is going on.

I have 30 years of advise for you, no matter the man, we all see ourself as strong or weak. When we meet a love interest, theother can see through us in time. and in time what we thing is hidden will come out. Honsety is the only way to make and build a strong relationship. Communication is the key element to building a bridge to each others heart strings.. When you meet the right person you can be yourself and feel secure the person is in to you as much as your in to him.. Stop hidding and find a lasting relationship as well take you time to as as many questions before leting your heart fall to soon...

Whit 30 years of relationship studies, your at a cross roads with this person, He is shifting gears and looking in a different dierection. listen to your heart and listen to the large change. He has another option and my have another person he is making a choice for someone else.In the short time you have been together he is unable to say in person what he truly feels. The unwriten rule speaks valumes. Dont spend much time you will heal move on...

I have 30 years in relationship advice, I see both of you as having issues from your past, I would say no matter what we want at times just because you had spent time in the past there is a reason your at this point now.. My advice to you is you need a fresh new look in life and find a new start, things happen for a reason and going back in time seems right but the test of time is you both need a new out look. there is more out there then steping back in to old ways and old problems...use your heart to let you know is this is true or just a fantacy..

I find relationships at work dont work out for the best, sence you are leaving it may work out most times they end porly then your stuck passing each other, why are you leaving and whats the issue you have and dont you see each other after work?

I find life is not a game of chance, when it come to being friends or lovers at times we have to understand it's eather real feeling's or fantascy dreamed up in our minds. Real love is a true feeling we have no doubt when it's real both side act on it without wonder. Just being friends is just that and to many push the boundary limits and many time we loose wanting more then the other can give, So i ask you a question is this a real friend you value or just fantacy?

You had a good start but the person you met has unfinished issues and not able to move on she is scared of loss... To sad, I havbe seen this issue in many i have talked with over the last 30 years.. People break up after being married or in a relationship and jump back in without taking the time to heal the hurts of there past and they are a train wreck to anyone in there path. life is no game and a heart has so much to give.. Youneed to move on he is unable to move forward at this time...... Don't give up hope there is more to life then this.. slow down and smell the flowers.....

Dont be a fool for this phoney, he was taking advantage of you from the first moment you met. He took what you offered and kept you at a distance from the begining and slowing backed off until he found the right person then wants to just be friends.... If you were to talk to his new dream lady he was seeing her at the same time and you are a fool to want anything to do with this asshole.................................................. Move on find someone looking for a real relationship.... Get some help.....

This is the true problem in life hes with someone else and your just along for the ride.. your both stupid....

Im sorry to tell you your wasting your life with a boy he is no man!!! He is very imature and you are feeding hes need to open your door after he leaves, knowing he is lieing to you and putting up with it . he continues hes abilty to treat you badly... Kick his ass to the curb and you will regain the power of a true lady not putting up with this bull shit.......

In life we have many choices to make and so many married people fall in to the trap of being taken advantage of. They stop talking to each other and a great distance begins and the choise to have affairs comes easyer. Instead od leaving they distroy there life and justify there actions. It's no easy to leave thou is a wiser choise in the long run.. Whyh be a fool for another..

Some people cant handle the intence feeling off the bat. it takes a mature person in touch with there feelings to continue a lasting relationship. be glad he left, he was not man enought for you in the first place.. better luck next time...

I find it sad today so many people getting invollved with married people and falling for the lie of them being in a loveless relationship.........

For starters by allowing them in to your life you are feeding them and yourself on a fools dream... I have no empathy as most spend countless time alone as the other is still MARRIED and having sex with the other party, and them coming to you saying they love you!!!!!

My thoughts are they gave a vow at the alter to another for death do us part.....If they are that unhappy leave dont stay and continue to lie to the other as well you that in time they will leave... whats to say they wont leave you in time as the same issue that made them this way has never been taken care of in the first place... You give the person a freebe they say they love you but there heart was given to another as well they have kids with another.. the fact they have kids with the other shows they had feeling for them,, only a fool has mindless sex with another and says they felt nothing..... thats a red flag in my book.. hes married and your going to put your life on hold for someone who goes home and is sleeping with another and he tells you he loves you, I can tell you from past experince he tells her he loves her to and if he said anything else... You could have a chat with her and ask her you would learn the truth... his ego is being filled by this diseption, your choice.

Sorry to hear this, funny how we are attracted to people and then we find the worst about then in the way they communicate... I find the best way to weed out the bad ones is to spend lots of time talking about ever subject in life and truly get to know someone up front. I have found in short order you will find out more in this time and spare you heart the pain in a relationship.. As why spend long amounts of time with people who are not ready to comment mainly do to past issues they have not found closure in... So many fall in lust not love as they want to be loved and over look how someone deals with everyday issues... both sides need to be free of there pasts in order to move in a future together...Most heartackes happen due to being overwhellemed. ones heart needs to protect and respect has to be earned and time is something most over look and we jump in without taking the time to see eachother being open and honest.....

I can say this in all honesty, when a man is in love with someone he cares for deeply there is nothing he wont do to spend as much time as he can to please her and show his undieing loveto her, his trust issues my be true but his dissapearing act shows another side of how he deals with his true problems and control issues having you wait for long periods of time your in limbo hanging on to dreams he cant handle.. you have a choice, drive yourself crazy or leave....I loved someone very dearly for 9 years gave her all you could ever want only to find she had an affair on me, when i confronted her her reply was she couldnt understand why i loved her so much... my reply was she was everything i ever wanted in a wife, friend and a lover... I was heart broken but I left her in 5 hours quit my job and moved away as i never wanted to be reminded of seeing her with my good friend and a family member....they loss everything.......