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good u have blocked her number...even if u see her in real life....just tell her " u were a happy person before u met her and all that u know is whenever she came in contact with u, she managed to make u unhappy. Even when u were together on good terms, she made u feel drained. It's really retarded of u to ever hope to be with her again. u can think of to not let her slip back into ure life"
Well, she is confused and she told that herself to u that she is afraid if she makes up with u, she might repeat the same mistakes again. She is being honest, and I think she had been honest before as well but u guys made the circumstances so worse that her being honest seemed like a lie to you. And yeah she is a Gemini they say wot they mean, yes you poured out your heart to her, but when Gemini love someone they do not tell that they love you coz they have a fear in their mind that if someone who they love will find out then they will know that u have become their(geminis) weakness n u will leave them(geminis), they hide their true feelings, if they love someone they will express it with actions so she “called” u but she didn’t say she loves u, i mean she said that but she said that after u said it twice. She loves you that y she called u (as they say action speaks louder than words), otherwise they don’t give a second look if they don’t love the person. Apart from Gemini thing, maybe she in confused coz its not been a long time since you guys have been divorced so she’s not used to living alone like this after spending years with u, i mean she did live alone without u with her mum, but then she knew even if she doesn’t live with u, she can patch up again and all and u r hers, she can come home again, get back to u and live with u again. She didn’t have those feelings before coz she didn’t break all ties with u then. She cannot get over the fact that she is divorced now, n now you have become her ex-husband and all the ties and her bond with u is finished. Maybe she couldn’t resist calling u so give her time she will get back to normal and will stop calling u. Coz i have just seen the other comment written by u that u don’t want to be with her then tell her next time if she calls, ever meets u again in life, that u don’t want any relationship with her.
Y do you say she’s playing games, i mean y would she play games at this point of time?....wot would she gain from it?..if u think she tries to take advantage of u which u have said hundreds of times in ure comments then tell her to leave u coz u really make things up in ure mind abt her which might not have any 0.0001 percent chance of being true .....I don’t think u really understood her.. coz u really think negatively about her....that was just my understanding!!!
Well now she told u wot she thought abt that old guy, he is just her friend and if hes that rich then y doesn’t she get married to him? y does she come to u again n again?..y does she call u again n again?..if u really get disturbed by attending her calls then tell her clearly that im moving on n she should also move on..n as she a Gemini..lol...she will understand it and will not call u again...you said “She has plenty of friends she could stay with.”..yeah true but but i think u didn’t get it hes a guy and an OLD guy and he was a friend so sometimes people prefer telling their things (especially when she was disturbed abt wot she was going through) to old people rather than their friend(s) (who are of the same age as her) and who might not give the right piece of advice as they don’t have the experience of life as old people do.
Where can she go?..where do you want her to go and live?..if there is a place where she can go then please do suggest her coz i don’t think she knows any place where anyone can keep her and her mum for as long as they want to stay in America.
Shes also not yet over you thats y she called you, you don’t need to call her, she also wants to see you happy thats y shes hesitant to call you...actually shes going through the same phase which u were going through few days back...u were disturbed then and now shes disturbed...the main difference is that she has realized this now that she has lost you forever.
Well I think her first language is not English so maybe that’s why u have taken her in a wrong way in a number of places..E.g. where she said she used him (the guy)...she should have said that she had to sweet talk to take a favour from him so that he could let her and her mother stay in his house as they had no where to stay coz they had no one in the country. She tries to convey the message to u or wotever she wants to say using the words which she thinks r appropriate according to her own dictionary but she doesn’t know as shes not English that these words r inappropriate n gives a wrong meaning or impression. So she thinks shes conveying the message properly but she doesn’t know woteva she says, u take a wrong meaning of it.
You said “She hasn't called me. Does she really want something again with me or is she just trying to see if I am over her or not, what does she really want???”...she called you coz she “missed” you... you should have told her that she should have cleared all these misunderstandings before she gave u the divorce papers...wots the point of telling all this now when its all over...just tell her u got in a depression after all this and u r emotionally and physically drained after all wot happened, n u have no stamina and can’t take this type of depression again... you have no strength left in u to make her happy anymore as u did wotever u could to make her happy but she doesn’t get happy easily...maybe u r not for her...n she should find a guy who can make her more happy than u.... tell her that we have got different personalities thats y we clash...its better for both of us to remain apart...as we had been harming each other for quite a long time in the past.......maybe we r not for each other.....n ask her wot can u give her now?..u have given her wot she was trying to get for a long time that was Divorce from you, she can do wotever she wants now....she is free now!!!...And if she says something again then finally ask her “wot does she want you to do now?..”...and hopefully after listening to all this if she still says which u want to hear then take stclair advice about counselling.......your wife is still confused after all wot happened......“give her time....don’t rush this time...don’t be too slow either...just be in the middle...let her think seriously...n if she seriously wants to be with u then go counselling...”
Your wife is emotional....she only understands the “language of Love”...
offended by wot?..i don't think anyone has said anything here for which i had to feel offended.....you said "We are all just here to help eachother by giving advice on what we get out of what they are telling us. We are not saying this is what you have to do because it is like this"...well i think everyone is saying here to move on to him coz she(her wife) has done this n that if u see the comments properly given by people....so i don't know y r u saying that "We are not saying this what he has to do because it is like this".....i don't know wot i have said where u felt like im mad about something?...u said "Or are you just mad in general because you think it's all about the whole race thing"...Oh just coz i said about the race thing u thought im getting mad....well if u see i didn’t take anyone’s side here...i didn’t say that his mother is American so shes racist or her wife’s mother is from thailand so shes racist...both races can be racist to each other...n when i said that i just meant that previous generations have some kind of mind sets.....they just don’t like the fact that their daughter in laws or son in laws r from different race...... And no i was not targeted by any racist remarks...i was just talking generally i mean u cant just close ure eyes n say yeah everything is ok....if im not racist, u r not racist that doesn’t mean everyone is not racist.. .....i just go by majority n majority of the people are.....2 or 3 people cannot change the thinking of other 98 people...well u can change it but it takes time (sometimes years)...it doesn’t happen overnight....
lol Ken... as i said no one can change one’s mindset...if u think u have been used then yes u have been used........I will not leave my house, my family, my friends, my country where I was born, brought up, spent my whole life for any person in the world unless I really love that person....
I think both of them never argued or fought before marriage maybe thats y u didn’t know how she acts when she argues and she didn’t u how u act in these situations or if u had arguments before marriage then u guys must have had ignored it as u guys didn’t want to lose each other....but when u had each other...both of them got change...n now this is the result..