I agree with sexygem. No one can tell what is going on in any relationship behind closed doors. Even marriages. People can outgrow each other, not through choice, and find they don't know the person they married, or fall out of love because the person has changed. I personally met my husband over 20 years ago, but for the last ten years I felt like wallpaper in our household. I was there as a mother, a housekeeper and a wife in name only. I met someone five years ago who made me feel alive, paid me attention, and who cares for me and loves me. You can't always help who you fall in love with. I wasn't looking for anyone, but they found me. Does a piece of paper mean I am not entitled to a life? Certainly it would have been so much simpler/easier for everyone had I been single, but I wasn't. Just because a person leaves a marriage once, it doesn't guarantee they will do it again. They might meet someone so right for them that they would never contemplate leaving them.It is so easy to generalise and to judge. Every situation has to be considered on its own merits. Good Luck Isabellax. Follow your instincts. They are usually right.xxx