Gem Male here- I feel compelled to reply as Gems always get a bad rap and are misunderstood. Just scanning through some of the posts and realized I can relate so perhaps here's some insight. But I can only speak for myself, although I do believe my general viewpoints are valid and typical Gem thoughts.
on WOMANIZING- Let's get this straight. A) Gems are charmers and love to make ppl smile- like a Service to brighten up the world- therefore most people say it's flirting- which is true but only to a degree B) People, women tend to tell me I'm hot and want to jump me- not being narcissistic, but it is what it is. C) Its not that my intention is to get every woman into bed when being "flirty"--I just like being social. "FLIRTING"- is MENTAL stimulation for me more than it is a vehicle to get her into bed. If I realize she wants me, I still could resist- but if there isn't reason to, why NOT have a little fun and know someone a little better- make a new friend?
COMMITMENT- Yes the "Greener Pastures" idealism is VERY TRUE and something that has to be worked on. A) Gems above all see life as MY life- individualistic. We try hard to always find the best "fit" for everything b/c we want to live the best possible fulfilling life in our opinion as we could-- idealists if you will. THEREFORE, the idea of COMMITMENT to ONE person is scary b/c we are never 100% sure if that person is 100% IDEAL -- and b/c Gems idea of "IDEAL" may change. COMMIT= you're asking me to Forsake all other people on Planet Earth and basically saying "It's YOU I choose above everyone else-- no one better for me than you--out of a few BILLION people"
we may dramatize it-- but can you kinda see why it's SCARY to us?
- DAY n NIGHT--- here's the weird thing, maybe this only pertains to me, but being a Fraternity guy, my GOOD/EVIL traits do show up, but mainly during the Day and another at Night-- and in need to 2 DIFFERENT types of women.
"DAY" me--- Loving, Affectionate, completely absorbed. Let's say I have a Girlfriend (meaning i must have liked her alot)-- she's usually the good looking, sweet, awesome girl next door type. My thoughts during the DAY could really care less about any girl-- NO MATTER how hot. Why? B/c I'm not MENTALLY into anyone else during the DAY other than this girl I'm with, or else I wouldn't choose to be with her in the 1st place......now NIGHT me well..
"NIGHT" me-- thrives on ENERGY, socializing and having a Fun, no Emotions GOOD time ("NIGHT" me usually turns on during the weekends @ the Clubs) In that state-- at a good party, girls flirting with me-- I don't pay attention to being "GOOD" and loyal b/c it doesn't fit with the atmosphere of the club or party. In this atmosphere-- ONLY THEN can a Hot girl who just wants me physically be able to seduce me b/c my MENTALITY at night in the party/club is totally in fun, no emotions mode.
That might sound bad-- but I've come to realize that- which's probably why some people say Gems need more than one girl to fit both sides. So yes, in a way, I want a nice/sweet girl to fit the good normal DAY life. Than, at the club, in NIGHT mode, it's more "No Holds Barred" have a good time socializing--- therefore needing a no strings attached, sexy girl that I DON"T WANT to have FEELINGS for, especially in the day.
I admit to the vices and a$$holeishness of it. But does this clarify anything?