I am born on 1-19 cusp of Capricorn and Aqu. with my moon is in Cancer and my rising is Sag. I find that I am a very determined person. I know that whatever it takes to get it accomplished I can do it. I do find that I tend to also procrastinate and find it hard to get myself motivated but once I am I am a force to be reconed with. Integrity is very important to me. If I say I am going to do something then I do it to the very best. I am a very loyal person and I find that I appear hard and cold on the outside but really on the inside I am very sensitive. When I am hurt by someone I find that I do not like conforntation and I do tend to retreat. Over the years when I have tried to explain myself my words tend to be twisted and turned against me so now I just leave and say goodbye to the person or situation. I am not materialist or in serch of money like they say Caps are I do enjoy classic things and I am very sentimental when it comes to the people and things that are special to me in my life. What most people don't understand about me is that I have a hard time with betrayal or any type of dishonesty. I can deal with anything as long as I am not lied to. I hate to play detective to find out the truth so that I can work on the problem, I can handle anything but dishonesty!
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RE: All Things Capricorn
RE: Are all cancerian men like this!!!!!!!!!
You are not just seeing RED FLAGS in this situation but you are seeing big RED BANNERS! stay away you don't need the drama in your life. Its not worth it! PS...If he doesn't respect the women who gave him a child then why would he respect you? Run and run fast!!!!!
RE: What is wrong with me?
Brookenicole84 ,The majority of men do not like confrontation of any kind when it comes to ending a relationship. I would say that he has moved on and doesn't know how to tell you, or he is either unsure about a new relationship that he has started or wants to start and he wants to keep you waiting in the wings while he see's where it is heading. This is selfish and cowardly, You deserve a better man than that in your life, if you settle for this disrespect from him now, you will be in his "I'll call her if I can't find anyone better file." Don't allow him to treat you this way. You can confront him and let him know that you feel disrespected by his advoidence and that you would rather be with a man who is able to communicate his feelings in an honest platform, or you can turn the tables and avoid him if he does come back around. You don't want to be his "stand by". If he can't be honest and communicate with you now what kind of relationship do you think you would have if you accept this man back into your life?. It surely won't be one in which you can trust him to be honest with you about his feelings for you, all you would be accomplishing is letting him know that you will settlle for less than you deserve and that is exactly what he will give you! Be your own best friend, find out who you are and what you want from a relaitonship and then you will be able to enter into a healthy, respectful honest situation with someone who will treat you the way that you want to be treated. It is better to be alone than to settle for less! Cancer men are very moody. They put up walls because in reality they are afraid that they will get hurt. I would say that he is insucure about himself so he has choosen not to do anything.That's not a man, that is a scared little boy or one that has been hiding someone else from you since the begining and he is afraid he is about to get caught in a tangled web of deception...Move forward on your own, true love will fall into place when it is right! And don't talk about yourself in a negitive way, you will internalize the negitve thought process "What's Wrong with Me" and it will become apart of who you are and you will not attract a positive situration, you will get what you feel that you think you deserve...So think positive, know yourself and what you want in your life and be patient the right person will come along, don't be afraid to be on your own, you can learn alot about yourself and what your want when you don't have the distractions of people who are not worthy of your uniquiness.
RE: How do you handle situations in which you are feeling used?
Thank you all for your input, I am happy to report that on the way home yesterday I stopped at the gas station, pulled up to the pump and did just like poetic555 suguested and said " Jim, I think that its your turn to put some gas in the car. He seemed a bit surprised but went in and did put $20.00 in the tank. I also asked him when he was planing on getting another car together and he replied that he was going this weekend to look for one. What I didn't know at the time was that my husband did speak to him before I picked them up and he told him that the situation was becoming an interferance for us, but that we would give him a week then after that we are not going to be able to ride him any longer and he is going to have to decide if he is going to get another car or move within walking distance of the job. So we will give him a week then he is on his own. The dirty clothes didn't get mentioned but I took a blanket, sheets and towels and spread them thoughout the entire back seat of the car, encapsulating everything that he could touch before I picked them up. He got the message. This morning he didn't smell quit as bad. Thanks everyone for your help with this situation! For all you softies out there let this be a lesson to you: Don't start anything that you don't want to be stuck with! After this week my husband and I decided that he will wait the hour until I can pick him up and we are not going to get involved with any sort of Ride Share's with anyone ever again! It is not worth it!
RE: How do you handle situations in which you are feeling used?
Its a tricky one, no there isn't any way to change work hours, My husband don't know the bosses well enough to see if they would say something about his odor, and we really don't want to start any drama at work. Maybe the forgetting to pick him up may work but that seems to go against our integrity. I guess we are just stuck with this smelly mess! Thanks for your suggestions The gas station idea after payday is a thought though....
How do you handle situations in which you are feeling used?
My husband and I are both Capricorns born 18 days apart and we have a situation which we know needs to be handled but are not sure how to handle it in a tactful way without causing any drama. My husband has recently (3 months ago) started a new job after being out of work for almost a year. He really likes his job and doesn't want to do anything that may compromise his new position. My husband does not drive I have been taking him to and from work everyday. One of his co-workers said that they would ride him home so that he wouldn't have to wait the hour before I was able to pick him up. We agreed that we would pay him each week for the ride home but that I would continue to take him to work. (We didn't want to be dependant on someone else for the ride into work because we didn't want to take a chance on someone else who may be late etc...) So we agreed on paying his coworker for rides home. The co workers van broke down almost a month ago, the co worker had said that he had the money to get a newer car and was not going to get his car fixed. The following weekend he was supposed to go out car shoping. At the time the co worker lets call him "Jim" asked if I would be able to give him a ride in the morning (5:00 am) and then ride him home. I didn't think that it would be a problem, but I was wrong! He has yet to get another car, my husband found one for him but that didn't "work out," Jim has yet to even look for a car himself. He is not giving us any money for gas, (which would have been fine for a few days or even a week) but at almost four dollars a gallon here it is quite costly. Now he is having me stop at the store for him, run errands, etc... Also the job that they do is a very dirty job and he is not a very clean person, he comes to work in his filthy clothes from days prior, he is doing nothing but just plain and simple using us for a ride now everyday and my husband and I don't want to start any work drama How do we get out of taking Jim to and from work. Even if he would start to give us gas money we are so sick and tired of him and his filthyness that we don't even want him in our car. Help! how can we do this tackfully?