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My birthday is April 11th, 1980. I was wondering if anyone could give me a reading for the year ahead. This is my big 4-0! I just know that good things are coming!

@thecaptain
So bankruptcy filing is my best bet to get anything done soon is what it sounds like. Ugh, I was really hoping to have this divorce finalized this year... I have been dealing with this since last December when we split. I hate to put the divorce on hold, but legally I guess I will have to so I can do the bankruptcy. Thank you Captain! I appreciate all of your advice and vision! Big hugs to you!

@TheCaptain
Dear Captain,
I was wondering if you might be able to tell me how much longer he is going to take to sign the divorce papers. I am in the process of starting the bankruptcy papers now (even though the divorce is still not finalized) and I sent the final proposal over to his lawyer's office two weeks ago. I feel like my lawyer is still not doing their job. I now have a threat of a wage garnishment over me because of the debt that I have been waiting to take care of through this bankruptcy. Will this man ever realize that signing the papers are the best thing, or do you see us having to go to trial (after the bankruptcy finalizes because I was told that would put the divorce on hold)? I just want this over with. I am so tired of it all and I feel like my lawyer is dragging this out as much as he is. I almost sent him a text to ask him to just sign the papers because the vehicle he has will be part of the bankruptcy (and therefore will be repossessed) if he doesn't get it in the final divorce paperwork, but I am afraid that will make him take it as a threat and react the opposite and hold out even longer. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated!

Thank you,
Laci

Thank you dear Captain! This is good information to know! ️

Dear Captain,
I hope you are doing well. I wanted to see if you could do a compatibility check for me... you have been correct on both of my ex husbands behavior so far and I really don’t want a third ex... so I would like to check with you first... Lol. He is Sagittarius (12-13-1973), and I am April 11th, 1980. Would this be a relationship possibility or just a keep it a friendship situation? I’m scared to make any moves at all with anyone after getting hurt so badly the last time, but I do feel that it is time for me to move on... I know I have possibilities out there!

I love this! My why for my job is because I love to see the growth of my students! I know that I am making a difference in their lives... I also always feel better when I get to help someone else. Apparently the need to be useful is ingrained in me. Thank you for sharing this!

Laci

@thecaptain
Thank you for your help Dear Captain! ️️️

@thecaptain
I have to claim bankruptcy either way. It’s just a matter of him also getting an extra vehicle that I paid for on my own in addition to his vehicle that I was paying for and he now is paying for. I was thinking after what you read that I am going to see if I can still take his ridiculous offer to just get this over with. I just want it all done and I don’t want that connection with him anymore.

@thecaptain
This completely makes sense. He has had multiple addictions in his life and it doesn’t surprise me that my children and I with the life I provided, are his current one. Would it be best to say I will take his ridiculous offer and just be rid of him and his whole family then? Or should I keep fighting to try to sell it at this point? I completely understand him being a super emotional and vindictive because he is trying to hold on person... but I have to move on to keep my kids and I safe and happy.

@thecaptain
June 21st, 1982 England

@thecaptain
Any suggestions?

@jayann
Yes, I am a teacher and he works at Walmart as a part time door greeter and is on disability as well. He was only on disability when I met him. His Heath was failing him and I helped him get healthier and encouraged him to work to get his mind in a better place (as he really wanted to). So, although I don’t really make that much, it is more than him. I believe you are correct. They don’t want anyone to be happy because they are truly not happy themselves.

@thecaptain
We haven’t got it on the market yet as he had been procrastinating so much. I know the realtor was going to list it for a reasonable price, but I’ve got to get him there to take the pictures of the house ASAP.

I just want this all over with.

@thecaptain
He refused my return offer of course. Now we pretty much have to sell the house together. As he and his family have put every possible procrastination into this sale, and made it take so much longer than necessary, do you see us selling the house quickly or do you think it will be completely foreclosed on? I almost feel like I should just give up everything to be done with him and them, but at the same time, I don’t like being taken advantage of. What do you feel?

Thank you,
Laci

@thecaptain
Thank you. I was thinking the same thing.

@jayann
Thank you! I am so very thankful that I get the hugs from my babies (who are definitely not babies anymore). Hugs help a lot! I hope you have a blessed weekend! ️️️

@thecaptain
Thank you for replying. There is nothing left to take. Everything is out of the house. It is a matter of his stupid offer. I’m trying to figure out if it would be better to accept his unreasonable offer and be done with all of his bullshit or try to negotiate and hope the judge will see things my way...

Thank you again,
Laci

@jayann
I tried and this is the problem. He just wants everything. He took things from the house that he insisted he had to have and “gave” them to his brother who sold them in a yard sale and gave him the money. He keeps doing things like this... I am so overly angry about this stupidity.

I am so angry right now. My ex is so trashy. I have been trying to finalize our divorce for months now. I recently offered to give him the house, and I will take all debt that is in my name, he takes all in just his name and I keep my Jeep, he keeps his minivan, and I take physical possession of the van that I bought before we got married (that is still in my name). I keep my retirement, and he forgives the $500 that the court said I had to pay for his lawyer and we would be done. He responded with I keep my retirement, the bills be what I asked, but he wants the van that I bought before and he wants to switch realtors to his asshole one who promised him more for the house ( stupidly). I am so angry and feel like this is. A betrayal to the realtor that has been working his ass off for us already... I don’t want to accept this shitty deal! Can you please do a reading and tell me which course would be better? I want the divorce done ( I want to be done with my lawyer as much as ex), but I also don’t want to screw over the realtor. He actually went and mowed the lawn and everything for us when the ex’s family was unwilling or just too lazy to do it! Argh! I’m so pissed. My lawyer sent the offer on the 21st and they were supposed to respond by the 23rd... They just responded finally today after 5!!! Today is the 29th!!! What the heck?!?!??? Oh and they want an answer before the first!!! They are so crazy!

@daliolite
Thank you. This is what I have been emailing them about. I offered for him to take the house and I will release all interest in the house if he signs the papers and gives me the few things of mine that he still has, as well as be responsible for debt in his name and I will do the same. They finally made the offer, but I only was told this after multiple calls and emails. We are waiting on the response from his side. Thankfully the realtor went and did yard work on his own this weekend! I wish the lawyer was as kind, understanding and giving as the realtor!
I’m praying that the ex’s side will accept the offer early next week as I have so much other stress to deal with, I just need this to be over with! I start back to work (as a teacher) on Monday... I really want this all over. Thank you for your time!