Captain, I'm curious. I'm 7/1/63 he is 7/12/55. Is it love?

Hey everyone... Help is back. God where do I start, remember I am a Cancer woman loving a Cancer man... Situations have changed, he's working further away now.. we back to Wed. and the wk-ends again. We are going on 11 months. I said Good Bye to him Monday, but he's not letting me go.. I have caved and we are seeing each other tonight.

Now, I said good bye for several differant reasons. We both are financially stressed, and he starting a new job, but where did my sweet attentive man go...the one that didn't want to be away from me for a moment, the hearfelt txt's... have we just settled in, passed the Honey Moon phase.. No, he's not cheating... I know for a fact he's home every nite, and we txt constantly, and we talk atleat 2-3x's a nite... since we spent a month and half together while he was working much closer..... have we passed the honey moon stage... he has stopped talking living together in the last 3 weeks, is it because I told him I wanted no part of apartment living...( I have a home), I live in a lake resort community, and he is in the Metroplex.. Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill? This week has been so hard, I love him, I believe he loves me.. Is he trying to get things figured out...Just don't know what is going on... And we cancers HATE THAT!!!!

Sorry. I don't believe that. It is a big issue.

Thank you all for your imput. If there are any males out there that would like to chime in.... Feel free. Until then....ONE DAY AT A TIME.

We have only been apart 2-3 days a week for the last 8 months. We have spent every Holiday together and all of his family knows me. We are always together, especially on wk-ends. I just don't know if my feeling is about me, or if I am holding his past against him.

Sure would love a male opinion. I have asked my co-workers if a cheater can change and they all say yes...

What do ya'll think. I haven't ever experience being cheated on... Least to my knowledge.

This is my first post, and I am in need of some help. 8 months ago I met a Cancer man, I am a Cancer woman. I have been divorced for 2.5 yrs, he...since 2003. I am 45 he is 53. We love each other very much, and he shows me in many ways. Since august of 08 we have not spent a wk-end apart, and we see each other atleast 2x's during the week.

What I need help with is this.. He has been very honest about his past. He remains friendly and close to his ex... the entire family is very close and I have no problem with any of that, have met her a couple of times at family functions. Have met the entire family and kids and it couldn't be better.. But.... he has never been faithful to any woman in his life.. not his wife of 24-25 yrs or any dating relationships, nor girl friends of past. I do all though belive he has been to me atleast these last 10 months. I have learned through other people that he has been faithful to me and he tells them I am differant, that he respects me and wants to be with me forever.

He tells me all this too. I know he is planning on asking me to marry him. He has been telling me this since last October.. He says Love At First Sight, and that he was done the moment he saw me and we met that August night. But, there is something in my gut that just won't let me give my Heart to him a 110% yet.

Am I holding his past against him?????? ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER??????

Or is it my past, ..... my divorce???? Some one please help. He has taken a new job that will lessen our time together now.. We will be going back to seeing each other on wk-ends and once during the week. We do love each other... I know that...but there is something....

Is it me?????? Help??????

I agree, just leave him alone for now.

I have one for all of you... HELP!! This is my first post, I have been divorced for 2 yrs after 21 yrs of marriage. I am now involved with a cancer man. He has pushed the relationship..committment and so on. He wants to live together now and has plans to ask me to marry. Here's my issue. He has been very honest about his life and his marriage of 24-25 yrs to his high school sweet heart. He has been divorced since 2003, they remain friends and are close, the entire family is close and it is all about the Children.. I have no problem with any of that. My issuse is he told me he has never been faithfull to anyone in his life.. Not his Wife, their entire marriage, or any dating relationships or girlfriends of past. We have been seeing each other since last August and haven't spent a wk-end apart since then.. we see each other atleast 2x's a week also, recently we spent about 3wks together at my home.. he was working very close, we actually live abut 45 minutes away from each other ( not to bad). So, I believe he has been faithfull to me these last 10 months, he tells me he is In Love, Wants Marriage with me, wants to be with me forever.

My question and concern is: ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER?????? There is something in my gut that just wont let me give myself 110%.

Is it reiminance of my divorce, or am I holding his past against him??? I'm not meaning to, he has done nothing wrong.. He is wonderful. But... as much as we have in common, we have some differances..which is ok, the sex is great .. when we have it. I'm 45 and he is 53 and we both are cancers... some one help...

Is this real?????????? Or is it Memorix.. We do love each other, and he has shown me in many ways that he loves me...but there is something.

Is it just me?????