MariaRia-

I know just what you're saying - I've been with a Cancer (on the Gemini cusp) for about 9 months. He gets very uncomfortable when I try to tell him how I feel about him. We are both divorcing - he's been separated a year longer than me. I don't want a "committment," but I do want to tell him I love him without him turning purple and looking like he got stuck with a big tab!

Also, I haven't met his family or friends. He's met some of my friends. We don't have a lot of time to spend together - maybe one evening during the week and a weekend once a month. I know he cares about me, and I try not to get hung up on the "words." He is very sweet and always wanting to help me. I'm not a delicate flower by any means (I have a Harley and I ride it!) and don't need someone to do the things I don't want to do. I really enjoy being with him - very easy and fun. We cook a lot!

There are times I think he wants to say something to me, but he stops. Then I don't hear from him for a few days. I know - protection, regrouping. I want to ask him - what's up with the family & friends. He's looking to rent his house and buy another one closer to his kids. I'm renting a place that's not convenient to work or him - he must care if he drives nearly an hour to see me. So I say, I hope when we're settled, we can be closer as far as mileage. No response. I didn't say - move closer to me or that I would move in next door. Just like to cut down the drive.

I think he's worth the uncertainty - but I'm a Gemini - and I like to know where I stand. I remember talking to my grandfather - spur of the moment phone call. Told him I loved him (we aren't a big "I love you" family. He said he loved me. And he died two weeks later. That sticks in my mind.

This thread has been a big help. Thanks to everyone who has posted.