Hi there sexyGem , at work it's kind of hard to sit down and have a serious conversation , there's always people around , I did talk to her today (because of a misunderstanding... long story... I might tell it later) , and waiting for her in the parking lot was my next Idea , but I've seen her avoiding me in such a blunt way that I don't want her to feel like I'm stalking her or anything like that , she usually clocks out and walks out to the parking lot , now it feels to me like she's taking her time and giving me a head start so that way we don't cross paths , This is how it feels to me , I might be wrong.

Don't know what else to tell you. It's been really hard on me , it's been a little better the last week.

As a scorpio what I want to do is start WWIII with her but since we was best friends I can't get myself to hate her like that , I don't think I can ever hate her , but then the way she's treating me is painful to me

, I did told her today , If you don't want to talk to me ever again , it's ok , I'll only talk to you if it's work related , but don't treat me like this , this is making me so miserable feeling that you hate me so bad.

So.... IDK ......

Let's wait till monday to see what happens.

Here again ... I've been waiting for her , to see if she has a change in attitude towards me , but nothing . It's been well over 6 weeks.

Is there anything else I can or should do?

I don't want to press the issue but this waiting is killing me.

Thanks.

Sexygem ... Thanks .

I know , I'll like to try one more time to sit down and talk , but not right now ... people tells me give her time don't even mention it .... and all that .. so that's what I'm doing ,

I was thinking that too ... she might want to back away from our friendship because of our chemistry growing strong.... I guess I'm not sure ( that's just an idea that went tru my mind) and she might not know how to react.

I've been there , in that same situation long time ago , and my marriage was almost over ,long story short , out of that situation I gained a great scorpio friend (fem.)

It's a weird mix of feelings and I know it's not easy dealing w/them.

I know and I always remember I'm married and I have no intention of breaking my marriage.

Thanks for the advice.

Be blessed )0(

=D

it really is a great combination , I don't remember having a friend like this before in my life.

That's why it hurts so deep.

Thanks.

Thanks everyone for the advice ....

I did say earlier that when I went to qc I had no idea she was the one in charge , so it's not like I knew and went to qc. And all I saw was a group of temporary employees running the line , I thought they don't know what's wrong.

I also admitted that I have feelings for her , but I won't let that affect our friendship , and my marriage.

Andyscorpio , thanks , I think this is what I was looking for after all , the opinion of another scorpio that can understand me , It is a great deal of pain being treated like this. Not everyone can understand it.

Thanks!!

Thanks Sexygem , that's my plan right now.And that's how I feel , it was not a big deal , but I didn't take in consideration her capricorn sign , so I strongly believe that the way our friendship is priority #1 for me , work is her #1 priority then friendship ... maybe IDK now.

Ailindria .... Thanks for your message .... I can't agree with you we've knonw each other for about 5 years .... we used to tell each other stuff we don't tell our family.... I can see her point on feeling betrayed by me , but hate me this way that I feel right now..... makes no sense.

But I'm not giving up , but @ the same time I don't want to look like a stalker , you know what I mean , right? I'm not ready to let my dear friend go like this , without even siting down and talk it over , even if she don't want to be my friend anymore.

Thanks

Sexygem ..... thanks , and that's what I'm doing right now , giving her space and wait and see what happens , but it's really hard to do.

1Hermit......... I know that about caps , like I said , I had no idea she was the one in charge when I talked to QC and you are right about all the other comments , I agree w/you 100%.

Leoscorpion ........ hi again .... love your advice .... 'm being completely honest here If this had happened like 5 or 8 years ago (and our age difference wasn't that big ) I think It would have go in a different direction , maybe.....

I have always valued friendship very high , I have not told her about my new found feelings for her , because like I said , I want her as a friend.

Thanks for the help!

Thanks for making me smile

It's so good to see there's still people with a sense of humor.

Thanks for the comments Leoscorpion.

Like I said earlier , I'm married and I do love my wife , so I'm not looking for girlfriends or sex outside my home , but If I see a pretty lady I'll look , I won't say anything if I don't know the person. I just wanted to make that clear.

So... back to my friend , we've been co-workers for a long time , I think at least 4 years or more , back when I started talking to her I told her (and her best friend back then, another female no longer there) that I found them really beautiful (specially my friend now she is gorgeous) and her personality was so down to earth and (I'm lost for words)awesome and that If I ever did or say something , anything that they'll consider out of line or inapropiate to please tell me right away to keep things clear between us. That was years ago.

So we were used to say to each other whatever the other was doing wrong , straight to the other's face and it was all good.

I don't think that anyone @ work can do that , maybe outside of work , but since we don't see each other outside of work I don't know.

About me having feelings for her , I have to admit it but I also want to make something clear , I told her sometime ago.... If I was single I'll be hitting on you like there's no tomorrow , so she knows I like her but I'll never cross that line between friends/lovers. And I had told her that a couple of times and she knows I have never been disrespectful towards her. And being completely honest with you .... back then when I said that It was more the physical attraction that made me say that ... later on it was that plus her personality , and most recently (like last week) I had this feeling overcome my whole person (right in the middle of this mess) and I just realized that I have really fallen really hard for her. But I don't want to lose her as a friend, so loosing my best friend is not an option. She doesn't know this since we haven't been able to talk.

So now you have a clearer picture of the situation , and that's why I hurts me so deep when she treats me the way she does , I really don't want to change teams , she's my friend and I don't want to lose her.

I've talked to a couple of our mutual friends and they say the same thing , hold on she'll come around , give her some time....

Touching her inappropriately , no , I don't think so not even by accident.

Even if she knew my new found feelings for her ...... I giving this a second thought ........ right now I don't know how she would react ........... she knows I love her as a friend ..... wow I don't know what to think......

I think you got a really good point there , so you say that she could be withdrawing so she would not interfere in my marriage ... that's a really good point , never looked at it this way.

Thanks for the advice , really helpful to have some listen to what I want to say when she won't listen.

I'm scorpio , male , married , and I always get along better w/ females than with males ,

But I takes a lot of self control and respect for your friends (and wife) I just rescently figured out I had fallen HARD for my best friend , but I don't want to mess up our friendship (and my marriage)

But HEY!!! that's me.... don't be thinking all scorpios are the same , the upbringing of a person also affects their behaviour .