I am still reading your good advice a few years later and wondering why the hell I am still in this mess. I found out she has delusional disorder this explains a lot. I got cancer this year and they are checking for more in other areas of my body. I don't want to die like this.

Because judging and criticizing is the path of least resistance, it can take some practice to choose to be loving and accepting over the usual criticisms. But the more you choose love, the easier it becomes to choose it again, and the weaker the habit of criticism becomes. "

So simple and so true!

You might have to work out an arrangement with your teachers for the things you miss. I saw a very small type of room originally so I am guessing it will be a smaller place. Since I live in America this means private clinic using my filter of experiences to translate this however where you live they may have small hospitals.

@ The Captain I have told her I have to save money she doesn't see it this way .. She has disliked people her entire life this is nothing new. We all hope people will love begin around other people their age. I used to work in a nursing type facility and no this is not reality they just have no choice. I thought I could get her a little dog or something to keep her company but no pets are allowed eve. I have put my foot down screamed at her -- told her to hand over my credit cards ( this month I will tell her no more driving) She admits she can do less and less. It is very sad. Still I go through for my own sanity-- I have been putting my foot down for 13 years taking care of her since I was 5. The only next step is for me to literally abandon her and I cannot do this. So it puts me back to square one always

@Shadowmist, Did she have to sign paperwork at all to go there? n some states you can force them in others you cannot UNLESS they post a threat to themselves . I called her Doctor for help ( from advice from a social worker) their response was "call 911" -- So every other option requires her to agree to it and be put on a waiting list.

LIfe presents us with lessons to grow and expand and realize you have to do this at some point in your life might as well do this now in the safety of school-- work world it is a lot worse -- you can do this

If a person does not agree-- her response is I want to die. Then there is nothing I can do EXCEPT call 911 and have her admitted to a psych ward to get her evaluated. This is how they do it Wisconsin. In other states I have lived there are other options. I have called social workers and nursing homes. She is broke. She refuses to even get life insurance. I am not alone there are a lot of seniors like this hating life because life really sucks when you get older. She won't acknowledge I am engaged she calls him my little friend and tells me how women like me do nto get married. Remember the movie Grey Gardens? She is the mother and I sure as hell don't want to wind up like the daughter in that film. I stand up to her all the time she just gets mad then plays all nice. No progress is made. She is bankrupting me. MY only solution is to have her removed from the apartment legally and this is something I cannot do. I am loyal to her because she is my Mom and she raised me. I have no other blood relatives . Seriously my real question is DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY IDEA HOW LONG SHE WILL LIVE MY HEALTH IS WORSE THAN HERS!!

Doree-- I see you laying down a little longer than you expected like about a week and a half but I feel you will not have to worry about schooling in a serious way. You may just have to get another way to do the beginning stuff Take care!

This was my original plan but the Mom's hate people they do not know. It's funny how life can be you pray and wish to meet the right person and you finally do and then something you cannot control 100 percent yourself blocks the way. I have always had a hard time with any type of plan I make not happening but a lot of random things seem to change events in my life on their own. I guess I am wishing for a random event. I have tried everything I can think of. I am choosing to stay and not leave her because this is the way I am I do not leave people but it is unfair to him.

Thanks Aunt Buck for your kindness. She trusts me and no one else ( lately she no longer trusts me since I got engaged). She has been very "vile" for 13 years. In my state I cannot get her to go into assisted living unless she wants to go. She is a combination of sick an stubborn. I am 43 years old. And I have reached my end with her. She has moved us around my entire life thinking people were trying to get her. She has good days where she acts ok but they do not last.

Thank you Captain-

Sadly she has no money and she has MS that affects her mind. She thinks people are trying to get her and steal from her all the time. She refuses to change anything. I am trying to get her to stop driving ( my car) I will have to hide the keys soon. She cannot admit life has progressed. She owns nothing no money nada. SHe gets social security that it is. My choices are pretty sad to have her admitted to a mental ward to get her looked at or get her to agree to get on houses lists. She refuses number two saying they will take her money away. P and I want to get married and we both want a life. He takes care of his mother as well but she is not so bad . Both of us have no siblings or any other families except Moms -- and each other of course. Luckily we both have decent jobs but not decent enough to do something like buy a house for all of us to live in.

I have a lot of patience but mine is almost gone-- Thank you Captain for all you do for everyone