AquaBubbles, thank you very much for your wisdom and advise. I know you're right. His words have caused me a great deal of confusion...the old adage, "Actions speak louder than words" does apply here. You're right again when you say his words have created chaos with my emotions and honestly, I'm drained. Plain and simple, I just wish I didn't love him at all. My head knows it, but my heart still loves him. But in the end, I love me more and I KNOW I deserve somthing much better, something real. Thank you very much.
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RE: Please help me!! Cancer man/Virgo woman..HELP!
Please help me!! Cancer man/Virgo woman..HELP!
I posted earlier but no responses. I REALLY need some insight. I feel so confused!! I'm a Virgo/he's a Cancer. I'm abt 7 yrs older. We work in the same field and I really work "for" him. We met thru mutual friend almost a year ago. All I wanted was business...he did, too at first. Then started sending me these texts expressing romantic interest. I wasn't interested..at first. Then we'd talk (we live in different cities still). He got my attention and the work was bonding. It was months before we even met and he told me he loved me, wanted me, wanted me to be in his life,etc. I was skeptical at first. He never said these things while we talked, only thru text. I began to think I was talking to two different people! Then he started saying these things verbally after I responded. Maybe he felt comfortable and more confident..don't know. Fast forward, almost a year later. It's been the rollercoaster ride from hell!!! Emotionally I'm up one minute and down the next! One minute he wants a relationship and the next he doesn't! He told me a few weeks ago (we've finally met face to face) that he only wants a working relationship. I said ok because I'm tired of the up and down. Within an hour, he texts me that he loves me. The sad part about it is that I believe he does. I love him very much also. I've never dated a cancer man and I wish someone had warned me! I've been married before and have grown children. Been in other relationships and have known love only once, but never passion. And passion and love is what I feel for this very confusing, mysterious and complex man. There is a side of me that says "he's worth the wait, hang in there"..and the other side says "get off the rollercoaster ride, NOW!" Everytime I try to get off, he pulls me back!! Everything in me tells me he's not the kind of man to say "I love you" easily to any woman and that if he says it, he means it. Am I wrong? I am in love with him and that makes it very hard. I've been disaapointed and frustrated and tearful many times over the past few months and I seem still not to be able to tell him to LEAVE ME ALONE and really mean it..there always seems to be a place of hope within me. Am I crazy? PLEASE..someone who has more experience witha Cancer man..please serve up some advise for a mature woman who THOUGHT she'd already been through the love mill, heartache and drama, until she met this man. Thank you!!!!
Much needed advise on a Cancer man
Hello to all,
I'm a mature woman although after dealing with this cancerian male, I sometimes wonder how mature I am to deal with this crazy rollercoaster ride. I need some input pls. Met a cancerian male earlier this year. He's several years younger. We work in same field and met through a mutual friend. I now work for him. I had no romantic interest when we met only wanted to work. He began to text me msgs of interest constantly. I was confused at first and still not interested. I was seeing someone else. That eventually ended. This cancer guy continued to show interest and started to get my attention, especially since we have the work in common. I began to see him differently and that maybe we could have something. I SLOWLY responded to him and he continued to respond...but NEVER verbally...only in texts...almost like talking to two different people. By phone it was business...text it was all romance (we live in two different cities-not far). He told me first that he loved me and wants to be with me and wants me in his life. I'm now in love with him. Very much so. But now he says he just wants to keep things business related and doesn't want to be in a personal relationship because of his work. After much heartache and disappointment, I have begun to accept that it's business only...now he's begun to text me that he loves me. I AM SO CONFUSED! He loves me or he loves me not! I LOVE ME and am sick of this rollercoaster ride! I also love him but he's caused me a great deal of tears and disappointment. I've been married before and have had many relationships, but honestly, I've never felt the passion that I feel with him. I'm grateful that I live in another city and we communicate via text, email, etc because of work. I think about him everyday but have decided to just continue on with my life as best I can like it was before I met him.. Anybody got any insight to this very complicated man?