P.S.and yes they are so worth it!
Cancerian men are so sensual and funny, always caring and more understanding than any other men I've known!!! I need that in a man....
That was lovely Scars and Stars...well put. I agree, starsigns only give part of the answer. I'm a 45 yo Sag who was married to a Cancer when I was 21.. he seemed to 'get me'; but sadly I was not ready for marriage - his pursuit and friendship were attractive at the time but we only lasted a year (very bad breakup though... he secretly left with no warning but i've healed and we spoke years later.I'm not one to hold onto a grudge.
Anyway, moving right along here I am some 20 years later and have had some wonderful 'life' exeriences (use your imagination/ plus sag personality prevailed...) and now that I've become more holistic and forgiving of all things,I find I have soooo much more patience. And what happens? I have met a Cancer (a few actually, I've known for a few years) and I felt the chemistry immediately! He is 14 years younger and I am intrigued by him; we get along really well but now it's been a year and it's hotting up - but Isaw a psychic who stated that he's getting over someone. I feel this, because he disappears for a month at a time then calls for a chat and we have recently been getting a little passionate; then he backs away.
Anyway, my sense is that as I'm no longer immature (it pays to be open to one's own shadow side) and quite secure, i know that he has feelings for me but needs to let go of some old stuff. I'm v patient and can let this happen and if it doesn't then it wasn't meant to be and we've had a wonderful liaison. I also believe that the age difference (I've read on these forums that the trend is usually a cancer man is at least 10 years younger ) is because Cancer is so cautious, sensivite (an old soul?) and ready to settle into a home scenario at any time. This also suits as I've got nothing but time to love and nuture now...
Bottom line? IN relation to previous comments, I believe it's about being independently self assured and content in one's own life so that a Cancer can feel safe. I'm extremely emotional and struggling with the year as I had only moved here when we met a year ago, so he also relates to my need to talk and trust someone with my feelings/fears. He likes to take care of me, and always senses my vulnerability without judgement. It's a balance;
.He has shown some 'I hate ...' signs when we chat about some people... I'm quiet and listen but don't have any toxic stuff in my own life; this is his stuff to work through but I won't make comment unless asked or in conversation. He usually says "and I don't want to talk about it"....so I grab a lighter topic and we usually have a chuckle. He is trusting me more these days...
There are no victims in life, just situations and how we choose to move gracefully through them... the rest is fate and trust. And Cancer people? I've loved many in my lifetime, and have been surrounded by women (grandma, aunties, cousins + pisces mum/sister) so the watery aspect has finally soothed me; and I'm an open minded learner... Cancers NEED NEED NEED to feel safe, and NOT BE QUESTIONED. Wait. Love what IS about a Cancer and don't ask unless it's a safe bet he has already established a lasting friendship
Does this put it into perspective for others?
I think FEB seems to be a time of endings and beginnings for me. But hey, I too can relate to this topsy turvy year... had an interview today after coming back to the city (sydney) looking for work in Nov last year and STILL haven't found full time employment. I'm juggling all kinds of entrepreneurial stuff to make ends meet - and fell for a younger (by 13 years) cancerian in the meantime who isn't quite in my life as yet (so im dealing with emotional roller coaster too!)
Although it's one of my biggest and toughest years (im 44), it's not my worst! I LOVE the way im feeling about this man, I LOVE that I'm so resilient and i am so grateful for my friends who have rallied around when I have a tough week, and it's karmic that they buy the champers and give the hugs! (I've been there so often for them.... with no expectations ever)
From all accounts, we are going through an all important Jupiter/Neptune/Venus + Chiron (planet of healing) encounter right now - and apparently this is the end of all our learning and healing in readiness for the next great path to unfold. And as far as im concerned; this sounds good to me! I've worked too hard and loved too often to give up now. I send you all blessings and support in what seems to be a Saggi's lot to suffer ongoing lessons - but oh what fun! NOT!...I do hope everyone else is staying positive and healthy? Here's to a rest soon... I'm also exhausted
Dear Leo, I really empathise with your dilemma. I've been divorced for 20 years and had no kids - am currently in love with a man 15 years younger... but anyway, so age is irrelevant - my first point. Secondly; you are a grown woman who has been rejected by your husband for some time, which of course means that you've been feeling empty and unloved. It sounds to me that 'aquarius (and yes, perfect astro match) is supportive so if you are no longer in love with your husband and there's no room for counselling (have you broached these subjects to your husband?) then move on out... be on your own and allow space for this new man to enter! You can both 'date' and be individual identities falling in love. And then, if it isn't working, you must be prepared to accept that it was time to be on your own anyway. As for your sons; they are men and will always want to be nurtured, but if they love you - your wellbeing is a priority. Search your heart, listen to your intuition, seek counselling and trust your next moves as part of the next phase in your life. Be brave x good luck!
(firstly, my post name is guidedogs because it's one of the many causes I support...along with World Vision - sponsoring makes me feel great; contributing to the greater good and caring on a global level
Anyway, now I will get to the core of this post. I've read through the responses regarding sag, and as a spiritual sag myself I can only agree that generally speaking I have all the traits; and at times I've not been happy about this. Firstly when I was younger I found it difficult to stay focussed on a home life. Career was important and i was constantly fighting off the boys and I DON'T say this in an ego manner. I had no intention of settling down, and travelled extensively by the time I was 20, having worked two jobs whilst going to Uni. Finally I was pressured to marry a Cancerian who was lovely and cuddly, but it lasted a year as he was not a 'big picture' person like me - he left! (weak; lack of communication; lied about having the same dreams;- but we were young and it was pressure from family too) anyway, after years of acceptance and healing and realising that I too played a part in choosing to be with him (so the key now is to listen to intuition and stay true to one's own nature) I then met and dated a Sagg for 5 years. This worked for us both because we were both fun loving and didn't want anything too serious. However, we did love each other but a Leo danced into his life and he got a little secretive. Maybe this is partly a male behaviour but I know it was never his intention to hurt me. I guess by not telling me the truth, he wasn't lying! very clever of him. Mind you, when it got to be more serious, I DID head off overseas for a trekking adventure... left my big paying corporate job for freedom. Anyway, 5 years later he has since seen my Facebook listing and said 'hi'; which was nice. We both learned valuable lessons; and regardless of astrology I do believe that we both needed to mature... and as a Sag I believe I'm a late starter when it comes to 'getting the lessons in life.' Anyway, I do have a lot of water signs in my chart, and as a middle aged (but still sexy, fit and gregarious fun loving/life loving gentle soul), I'm more than ready to settle down. The superficial aspects that scorpio may envisage are simply the sag's need to 'actively participate largely in life i.e. 'live life to the full' and my closest friend is a Scorpio; she puts up with my outspoken-ness and my pisces sensitive friends/family have also over the years retaliated at times to my honesty...which DOES hurt me deeply and see me bunker down for months alone (see? lots of water / lots of forgiveness and love over the years) so those people who love us will always see the bigger picture and not judge.
Lastly (as you can see, I do love to 'talk') I've fallen in love with a much younger man who happens to be a Cancerian!!! I felt a little panicked but see this as a test by virtue of what I have learned. He wants to have a home and family - and I'm more than ready to oblige It's that 13 year cycle coming to an end... very auspicious month! Hang in there if everything is sincere and equal. (cancer girl with older Sag man... my sense is that you are giving up your own personal energy and he will take advantage of this as it creates more freedom for him. What makes you happy>?)