Thank you very much. You are right about my "subconcious need for suffering". But I have been working on that as well as most other things in my life, as I am in a constant quest for self improvement.

Hello Captain, My birthdate-9/6/1971, my husband-5/14/1968. We are having communication problems. Actually the problem is with me; I can't seem to open up and speak my mind. He is an educator and loves to talk and exchange ideas and is frustrated that he can't have that with me. He has been chatting with other women online and his cellphone and texting them, and says it's because he can't talk to me, so it's my fault, but assures me he hasn't broken our marriage vows and I believe him. I love this man and I need to know if we will get things back on track. Why am I so stuck when it comes to expressing my feelings?

Thank you very much for doing this service.