A virgo man is a walking, talking dichotomy. They behave one way, but below the surface something else exists. The problem is that emotions are not concrete. They are gray, elusive, and mysterious. They can be confusing, disorienting, and difficult, especially for someone who has a tendency to protect themselves with a wall...Patience is the key...and trusting your instincts is also essential.
We all show affection in our own ways. For a cancer, it might be cooking a meal, taking care of others, nurturing. For a virgo man, it is quite different..(at least in my experience). They act, move, constantly analyze, give advice, and try to help build. They operate mainly from their heads, but don't be fooled. There is an amazing wealth of emotion, tenderness, care, and soul lying beneath the surface. They just do not like to operate in gray. Black/white. Yes/no..validate with the senses. Emotions you cannot validate in that way.
So, be patient. Do what you have been doing, but verbalize it in a way that gives him options and a chance to work through it mentally first. He will not clue you in once he has had a chance to process it. Don't rush it, don't get too stuck in your head, and most of all enjoy it. He is kind-spirited, intelligent, and thoughful. He just processes things on a different level, from a different perspective What you value he may not understand. Give him a chance to do just that. Keep doing what you are doing If he does not like it, he will let you know.