I am an aquarian and I was married-I thought happily-to a smart, funny, kind and loving Gemini male for about 20 years. Almost a year after we bought our first home, I found out he was having an affair--something he had never done before, as far as I know--and he wanted out of the marriage. He turned colder than ice and hurt me very deeply-he had been my lover, husband and closest friend-and now he just wanted to forget I had ever existed. I am still not over it, ten years later. I thought I knew him and was his closest confidant--well, apparently not! Gemini's can be very Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde personalities.

Well, I didn't find that boring at all-rather insightful, actually.

I do believe my lost love isn't evil-I don't think he ever tries to hurt me-but knowing that he was a huge, major romantic event in my life and that I was just a face in a huge, surging mob of women in his-well, that cracking sound you hear is my heart breaking again.

I'll always be in love with him...

Hi--A scorpio in Texas? That's where the one great unrequited love of my life is--living with one of his thousands of other girlfriends. He dated her in high school and me when he was in his 20's and I was in high school. We haven't seen each other for 40 years. I broke up with him in 1972, in my second semester of college, because he screwed one of my best friends--among God knows how many other women. He was a compulsive sex addict, totally out of control and he cheated on every girl he ever dated seriously. He has 5 planets in Scorpio, plus lots of Sag and Leo in his chart.

After my long-term marriage to a wonderful but ultimately faithless Gemini broke up in 2004, I tried looking for my Scorpio ex on line and finally tracked him down in New Mexico, living with his wife and daughter. We started a long distance phone and internet relationship, which ultimately went nowhere, as he was only playing with me, because he was bored, I guess. He told me his marriage had been sexless and unloving for a decade and led me to believe that he wanted to get back together with me when he got it together to leave his wife. After 300 pages of passioate, fluffy romantic nonsense and hours of talk and occasional phone sex-(REALLY EMBARRASSING!) he dumped me with a one line e mail and took off to live with his high school girlfriend, who he was doing the exact same thing with. She's basically supporting him-he works a little-freelance stuff--but she's giving him meals, vehicles and a roof over his lying, cheating player ass.

Who knows--maybe he really loves her and is being totally faithful to her--but I really doubt it. He tried very hard to convince me that he was a changed man-that having his heart broken by his wife and raising his daughter, who he adores, had taught him something about love and responsibility. Again--good luck to his lover, C, in Texas and I hope he doesn't revert to his basic behavior. However, the man is 62 years old and I find it very unlikely that he won't hurt her like he's hurt so many others.

Good luck, if you love a Scorpio man--and watch out for the old ones wearing cowboy hats.

Hi--I am an Aquarius with virgo rising, gemini mid-heaven and both venus and mars in pisces--all of this makes me both typical and atypical. Creative, witty, eccentric, idealistic and something of a rebel-on board with all that-yet I am extremely emotional-atypical-and something of a doormat with people I love.

I had a long term marriage that ended in 2004, with a gemini man that I loved deeply and miss terribly-he fell out of love with me and into love with another--twins are wonderful, but can be shallow and selfish-also fickle-in the extreme. I believed he was my soulmate--apparently not.

I made contact with my first love, from my teens-through the internet and online, In 2007. He was a scorpio-sag cusp--5 planets in scorpio--VERY intense--and I loved him desperately, as only a 17 year old can--and he lied, cheated and humiliated me, cheating on me with one of my closest friends. (She is my mirror twin--a virgo with aquarius rising who is unlike me in most ways--sexual fiedelity and loyalty being one of the most obvious.)

I have been alone for about a decade now, and I despair of ever finding true love. I'm ok alone--we are independent, after all--but I would be lying if I said I wasn't lonely.

Any other aquarians in the same boat? Best to all-G.