I can definitely relate to most of what you had written to me about the relationship. We are still seeing each other now, however, I feel his level of trying to make an effort and courtship from his side has significantly decreased. Communication, has always been an issue, he is like this with all the people in his life. Not just me. But I know he has the ability to open up more as he did in the beginning but Somehow I could never break through his shell and feel complete vulnerability and rawness. He said his past relationships have all ended because he ends up getting complacent and lazy and also due to his lack of communication.
Because he was so honest to begin with where his 'downfalls' lie as in, why it didn't work with others combined with me being a very understanding relaxed individual, we never had any arguments. If he had to work late or I wouldn't hear from him during the day I wouldn't get angry but just support him and make plans to distract him from hard work when he got over worked and was feeling low. The problem is, he began to communicate less and less and became he exact complacent person he said he wanted to avoid being in the start of the relationship. Efforts from his side have declined and I gently said a few times over the past month that even something simple like a good morning txt or call to check up on me now and then would suffice and asked him if he still was interested in me and wanted to continue, he said yes both times and that hed give more effort to be emotionally there for me too not just one sided as it has been. However this effort will be apparent for 3 days then disintegrate again and I can't help feeling silly giving it my 110% when on his side its so little. He said hes a bad communicator all round and a worrying thing is that he is still very much in contact with his ex (Christelle) i havent voiced any jealousy but its almost like they have more communication than I do with my own partner.
He has told me he has never felt the feeling or emotion of being in love even though he was with his ex for 4 years and said he is worried he will never be able to feel it. This, plus his social anxiety and preference to hide away amongst all else has me wondering if he has a slight case of Aspergers.
I just don't know what to do, I'm giving it my all as there are aspects of him i REALLY like but I don't know how to go about this or to continue trying.
Any thoughts/advice or vibes you get please let me know.
I have tried to upload a pic of us but not sure if it will upload properly.
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.
Thanking you in advance and I'm very sorry about the long message!