GYWM, have you had your thyroid levels checked? My sister at your age was trying to get pregnant for two years and had tried everything short of fertility drugs when it was discovered her thyroid was low; she got pregnant within two weeks of taking supplements and easily conceived again less than two years later. I hope your situation turns out to have an equally simple solution. Try to trust that if you make your intention known to the universe, it will happen if and when the time is right for all three of you. Light and blessings, gd
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RE: Newly married, really wanting a baby (but I'm older and having issues)
RE: Dream interpretation
It sounds like some aspect of your waking relationship with your roommate is bringing out their "shadow self"—the issues and parts of their personality that they don't want to own or deal with and would prefer to keep hidden. Since the shadow appeared in your room, I would guess that your roommate is subconsciously hoping you will find a way to accept that part of them, even though it appears that they haven't accepted it yet themselves (passing quickly by, not wanting to be touched). I wonder if maybe if you can bring some loving "light" of acceptance to the daytime circumstances of your relationship, the shadow will be relieved and the relationship might become easier?
RE: What is going on in the world
There was a New York Times article recently about the disparity between the frenetic yang-energy rush of the holiday season and the fact that it coincides with midwinter in the Northern hemisphere, which is by nature a yin energy time—a time to slow down, turn inward, reflect, engage in quiet creative activities, nurture our bodies with rest and warming, hearty foods, and conserve our energy and resources. Instead we are culturally encouraged to race about accomplishing the many items on our lists. We overwork, overparty, overshop, overspend, overeat rich sweet foods, and generally make little time for rest and relaxation. No wonder so many people feel anxious, tense, and stressed—or that they often unload their misery on others. Then, too, there's a lot of stressful action in the outer planets these days that gets felt and reflected on a collective level. I've found that if I pay enough attention to keeping my own reservoir full, I have the energy to spare to give some to others. If for every driver who is rude to us, we pause to let another driver into a crowded street, or for every person who cuts in line we notice another's hurry and give them our place, pick up the dropped package, smile at the crying child, lend a hand loading a heavy box into a car…then, as I see it, we're "evening the score" for kindness versus rudeness—and we usually get back, in both satisfaction and gratitude, more than we gave. When I'm too out of sorts to bother with small kind gestures, I know it's time to go home, make a cup of tea, and be kind to myself until I'm restored enough to be kind to others again.
RE: Hardest decision of my life.... Guidance anyone?
I'm so glad you reached out for support (and have gotten it) here, and I hope above all else for you that whatever decision you make (or have made) is one governed by love rather than fear.
I know when I was making a similar decision, I let myself be guided by my many fears. The pregnancy was unplanned (I had started birth control but it hadn't yet taken effect), and my ex (then fiancé) was pushing hard for termination. I had left my job because we had worked together at a company that had a non-fraternization policy, so although I was starting freelance work, at the time I had no steady income. He was also very controlling, and I could see that co-parenting with him would be an ordeal, especially if he resented me for insisting on having the child. I was in my mid-20s and had parents who, several years earlier, had reacted very badly to my sister's teen pregnancy; she had given her baby up for adoption and I knew her heartache intimately. Although I very much wanted the child, I was terrified of finding myself alone and without income or family support, and equally terrified that if I left the relationship to have the baby, he would find a way to take that child away from me—so I chose to do as he wanted and terminate the pregnancy instead of listening to my heart and doing what I really wanted to do.
I never did become a mother, and now am nearly past the point where that's even a possibility. I'm not going to say that I wish I had made a different decision, because I believe life is a journey that takes us down the roads we need to travel, and every path has its struggles and rewards—but I do wish that in making that choice I had given more weight to my inner voice and true desires, and less to the clamoring fears that I let overwhelm me.
And I wish for you that your path, whatever it may be, is the one that your own heart chooses.
RE: Compatibility analysis
Dear Captain, Would you kindly run a new pair of dates for me, please? This one feels karmic, a bit unsettling, with apparent potential for both a creative business relationship and a passionate pairing (our Venus conjunct in Scorpio), only the intensity is such that I wonder if we have as much likelihood of burning up, or out, as of lighting a sustainable fire. Me: 17 Oct 1970; him: 19 Nov 1969.
Many thanks, and I hope this finds you happy, healthy, and thriving in every way! gd
RE: Best Gifts By Zodiac Sign
Ooh, I love Baileys and champagne and sensuous fabrics and food, too! Must be the influence of my Taurus moon As a Libra, I also love gifts of art and flowers (though I do like cut ones, and prefer soft shades over bright)—anything beautiful, really, whether for my home or to wear—I love pretty clothes! And books, mostly literary fiction as well as spiritual topics and poetry.
A long-ago boyfriend was a 2/17 Aquarius, and his interests were musical and world-oriented—anything from other cultures, anything unusual or mind-expanding—things I remember giving him include a Tibetan calendar wheel, a cool hookah pipe found in a Chinatown shop, concert tickets, new age and world music, Egyptian papyrus and other handmade stationery with a good fountain pen and ink and an assortment of unusual stamps—he was a great letter writer—books on travel and indigenous cultures. He wasn't very materialistic, and unlike me wasn't into receiving gifts to adorn self or home, more about experiences than things. Hope this helps with your 2/19 person!
RE: The Captain's Blog
Yes to the feeling tired, too. But hopeful as well, and somehow feeling more at peace and capable of handling what comes my way. I love the Mary Oliver poem! Another of hers is one of my favorites, too:
The Summer Day
Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean-
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down-
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?
What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? That question is always with me…then I realize (thanks, Poetic, for the You Are Not Responsible for Everything and Everyone post today!) that I'm already doing it: moving toward what gives me joy. Basking in the sun, paying attention to the amazing details in the natural world around me, putting my heart into working with more with my hands and less with my head. Lots of love and light to you ladies, and may we all spend this new year doing what gives us joy in this wild and precious life—gd