Thank you all.

I have been through alot in my life and know my strength but I usually am slow to react to things until I have thoroughly worked through it in my mind or I am at breaking point. Most people find it annoying since I don't want to do anything on impulse and regret it later. I figure if I let it simmer for a while I can find the wise choice much easier than to just react.

I grew up with a step parent and obviously since you are worried about it you are probably doing a good job. I know it is hard but it sounds like you and your partner are trying to go at it the best way. Also depending on the ages of the children they will probably retreat anyway.

I think really it is better to actually be a bit distant and let them come to you. My mother forced me to call my stepfather dad and other stuff that made me uncomfortable. In fact it led me to retreat from her as well as him.

After he moved back he seemed to totally change and then he ended up hoping into bed with someone. That seemed to last a week and now he has some other girlfriend. I think the main reason I feel upset is yes I have feelings for him and I hate to turn my back on anyone I care for even if it is for the best.

For the past few months I have been trying to come to grips with the end of a friendship. In the beginning of the year I was seperated from my husband and saidn friend and I seemed to get much closer and started talking about persuing a relationship. He then moved home on my advice to get his life in order and everything changed. The situation changed and I attempted to be friends with him again. I couldn't and finally wrote a letter to him saying I'm sorry please don't contact me again. I love and care for you and that is why it has to be this way. (I know it may not make sense but knowing he was out there and with someone else just hurt so bad) I just would love some guidance to start feeling better about this whole situation again.

Hi! I'm Andreanna. I just wandered on the forums so I'm checking the place out.