if my times are correct you were born the same year as my cancer friend(bday july 18 ,1971). let me tell you about life changes. his marriage of 17yrs is falling apart, he hasn't left yet because of his kids. during the saturn, uranus opposition on Nov. 4 he lost a local county election that he was banking on. now with his current job in the auto industry he isn't making any money, he's had to close friends die in the last month...life is hitting you two hard right now...he can't move forward neither cause he doesn't know what part of his life he needs to fix first...and here i sit waiting in the wing to pick up his pieces

long story, i met my cancer man online in 2006, fun and games at first, but eventually our discussions became caring. we only saw each other 3 times in 2yrs and like alot of these posts when i brought up a relationship with him he would disappear on me, but he always came back. i went through alot of personal changes in my life mostly from the encouragement of my cancer friend. i found myself, after 2 horrible marriages. i became independent and responsible, through his guidence and understanding of my situation. in sept. of 2007 i bought a house and moved my kids into their first real home. yes, i moved closer to him. he and i still chatted online but he was still elusive. in may of 2008 i found out he was married, and i stopped talking to him, but by July i needed him back. i know about his wife and the relationship problems they have. he has told me in person that he is in love with me, and that this is not fair to me. the issue he has is with leaving his kids, and he has come very close to leaving twice. now his issue is with he can give me what i want, not now anyway. his life is in turmoil...bad job, going back to school, bad marriage. we both think its bad karma, and i have told him that i will leave so he can rectify his current situation, and we can change our karmic energy, but when i do leave he always comes looking for me. I am a scorpio, i am a feeling person, spiritual if i may say..i ask for signs and alot of times i see them. he is analytical, rational. i have told him about my signs and he seems to understand and has opened up to being more emotional with me...i guess what i want to know is..is his being a cancer, hes a nurturer, he needs to be able to take care of his kids, and the new issue of not being able to give me what i want is because he cant take care of me now... am i stupid to keep holding on? so far all my signs point to us being together