New Virgo had everything going for him; everything I like. However after the initial newness wore off (very quickly) I realized we have alot in common but "it" wasn't there. No chemistry--and he bored me to death. The second date I could barely stay awake at dinner. I even suggested we go to his place to talk some more to give it a chance to be a better date. When we got there he showed me around and then began talking about boring stuff--again. I tried diverting the conversation but it just didn't work. In the days after he talked about another date but I had things planned and he had to know EVERY detail which made me very annoyed. More boring phone calls until I found myself not picking up his calls. Where we had been communicating everyday it went to every 2 days or so. Before, I looked forward to seeing him, then I began to dread it. So I didn't want to go into 2013 with this feeling I decided to tell him it wasn't working. The day I was to tell him; he said he needed to talk to me, but nothing bad. I was thinking that's great I can tell him then. He called and was being very boring again and finally I asked him what it was that he had to tell me. He dramatically asked if I was sitting down. I said yes. Then he proceeded to tell me how much I meant to him and how I brought a sense of peace and calm to his world sense he met me! I was floored! I couldn't tell him then. so I did 2 days later. He was trying to tell me that 2013 would be great for him especially since he met me. I thought that was a good time to tell him how I actually fel so I did. He said ok but kept saying what a good man he was and how he was a catch, etc. How he used to be with alot of women and how he was ready to settle down and buy a house (in the area I wanted to purchase), etc. Like he was trying to get me to change my mind. Not. He texted me last night accusing me of not just "being to myself" (as I told him I would be) because I posted new pictures on the dating site on which I met him. I didn't reply; just deleted the text; there's really no sense in responding to that--I don't feel I owe him any explanation for posting pictures! Then a few hours later I got a blocked phone call. Something tells me it was him but I didn't answer. I don't know why he'd call and block his number but I just have a feeling it was him. I hope he won't become a stalker! I'm going to block any further texts and calls from him today.
I don't feel badly that I ended things with new Virgo; I feel relieved. I feel it was too soon for me to get involved in anything too intense and I know he wanted a relationship with me. It was better that I told him sooner than later. And I definitely didn't want to do what last Virgo did to me--lead me on with no intentions of anything serious. Oh! I did unblock last Virgo just to tell him I made it home safely from the party as he requested. I told him it was good seeing him again even if it was the last time and wished him the best. His response (almost immediate) was that he wished I was lying beside him and that I looked good as usual. I didn't respond and I need to put his number back on block! Jen to answer your question, when I told him that no, I wouldn't have reached out to him had I not seen him at the party, I did ask him why didn't he try. He said he did twice (he emailed me at work) and I didn't respond so he stopped. I told him he should have tried harder, to which he laughed, lol. So there you are. I told him I got tired of his wishy/washy ways. He laughed at that and said that I was the one who was wishy/washy. I told him I was never wishy/washy in my feelings toward him--they always remained the same. I told him he was the one who said he was in love with me in one email and that he COULD fall in love with me in the next email. He agreed that was confusing. Said he WAS in love with me then and still was! I laughed and told him he was such a liar! Sorry this was so long!
As I said before nothing has changed and I will take some time for myself; at least a few months before dating again. I need to make sure I'm emotionally available to someone and I'm not right now. New Virgo was much too soon. Maybe he was boring because I was emotionally drained and just not into it. I don't know. I might have made a mistake in getting rid of him but I'm willing to take that risk in order to be happy right now...