Hi, I'm new to this and was looking for some advice. I've been dating sagittarius man for 9 months (I am also sagittarius) and we recently discussed becoming exclusive. He has a "list" for his ideal mate and I just don't fit the list so we just decided to keep going the way it is. But when I see him, I get butterflies and I just melt when I'm in his arms. He won't sleep with me because he says he doesn't want more emotions to come into play. We do have a fun time together and we are compatible on many levels. So, I wonder will he ever compromise his list? Will he open up to moving to the next level or am I just wasting time? He is at a point in his life where he wants marriage and kids, he's 35 and never been married (afraid of commitment I think...) and I am divorced with a daughter. Should I continue dating him or just let it go?
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Is there a future? Should I stay or go?
RE: Do I stay or should I go...........
I have been separated now for almost one year and I have my regrets. My husband wants to reconcile and I am trying to open myself up to that possibility but I've lived under his thumb for so many years I really enjoy my freedom. I have many more friends and dating is exciting and fun.
The problem is that you have to share your kids. You will give up control of them and you will not be there for every little thing that happens. You will miss those small things like a funny joke or a sad moment and you will not ever regain these moments...your kids will remember that mom was not there. They will feel deserted. Try to work it out. Go away for a long weekend, try to remember what made you fall in love with him at the beginning of your relationship.