Posts made by gem30

It's hard to let go too, once they pinch you there's no escape. They're like magnets you can't away from them. I'm very expressive I always tell him how he makes me feel, bad or good. I don't ignore him and I don't like to be ignored either. It's rude not to answer to a text or call, it only takes 10 seconds to respond and I think it's polite to answer no matter who it is. Just tell me that you're busy and I'll leave you alone but they operate differently.

They do run when they get scared. Cry babies. At least yours told you why, I know a lot of crabs who disappear without a trace. I'll bet you million dollars that yours is going to come back. Just when you mI've on they pop back into your life and they win your heart and your back riding a roller coadter with him. Also they hate when you ignore them. Mine used to ignore my texts, apply the next day or sometimes no reply at all. One day he text like nothing happened, he forgot that he ignored my text just a few days before. I just told him that when you reply to my texts I'll reply to yours. I guess we're even now. He's not doing since. Ill dump his ass in a minute. I think it's rude and impolite not to answer. It only take 10 seconds to reply, but they like to come to you when they feel like it, in their on terms. Once you tolerate this kind of behavior, they will do it always cause they think it's ok since we allow it.

Wow, it looks like we're all dating the same guy. Mine did disappear a lot until one day I got fed up I told him to go to hell. I couldnt take that anymore. I told him to his face that ignoring me is not ok. We broke up for a month and he came back and havent disappeared since. It's been 5 months. He answers to every call, every text. He better cause I promised myself I would not put up with this kind of behavior. Cancers need a strong woman that wouldnt take shit from him, someone who talks back. I do tell him everytime he pisses me off, which doesn't happen very often. Just stand up for yourself, stand up to him. I always stand up for myself, and if he doesn't love me for who I am well next

. Plenty other guys out there.

Good luck to crab ladies

If your friend told you to stay away then do it, if he is a player you don't need him. Find someone who wouldn't call you names , someone who you will respect you more than he does.

"tattoogemini" I feel your pain, been there wih my cancer lol he still does that. Just texting him, if he texts you first then, just explain to him how you feel dont push it that he doesnt call u or text u. When cancers feel threatened they will contact you, and don't tell how u feel all the time lol this happened to me with my cancer he was crazy about me and soon as I told how I felt he disappeared for weeks. When they get to close to you they run, until they figure out what they want. They are insecure that's why probably he acuses you of sleeping around. They fear rejection lol big time and they hurt very easy. Don't give in to fast just leave him alone for now, he will bounce back for sure they always do as long as we let them. You have to stand up for yourself and, and know where you stand, he doesn't have to be rude and tell you straight that he doesnt want you, don't tolerate that. My cancer has never been with me like, if he tells me he doesnt want me I'm gone lol. Wait for a few days until he contancts you, resist and if doesnt contact you move on as sad as it sound now, trust me it will save you a lot of pain. Find someone who will respect you and care about. Keep me posted take care

I'm a gem female, I have been with a cancer for two years now, lol so moody. I thought us gems are moody but comparing to cancers.....

This is just the beginning lol, cancers are hard work. Been with a cancer for two years, hot/cold, push/pull. It's not that he doesn't like you anymore, they are moody. This is testing lol, they will test you if you're going to be there for them even when they are moody. Be patient if you like him, when he doesn't contact you leave him alone don' push him, he will draw back into his shell and will ignore you more. Just be there for him. They are complex lol but they are worth it in the end, Love my moody crab. Good luck

"He really has to make some effort if he really loves me. "

Seriously? Aren't you the one who left him just a few times? He won't come back, cancer are extremely sensitive, you hurt him, I'm suprised he told you he wanted to be friends. I'm gem I'm not a cancer but been with one for 2 years. Be his friend, or step back and think what do you want, stop playing games, leave him and then go back to him again, you're playing emotionally with him cancers hurt too much lol. Move on don't hurt him anymore if he contancts you try to be his friend before you win his heart again if? that's a big if. Good luck!

"tatoogemini" You are allowing him to call you names, you keep going back to him. Have you ever told him that you don't like to be called names, that is not polite and it's rude? You let him know where you stand, let him know straight up that his behavior is not acceptable. Whatever you do don't contact him, don't text him. Even if he does don't reply back, for a few days, cancers hate to be ignored. I'm talking from experience. I have been with my cancer for 2 years now, and it has been a roller coaster lol. But he learned, he never call me names I won't allow it either he is very polite, he does disappeaer like ever other cancer for days but I give him space and he comes back always. Remeber no text, no call, I know it's hard but resist don't show him that you are desperate or vulnerable, don't sweat he will come back. Keep us posted good luck!