One of the things that I have considered in my friendship with "my" Matthew is the meaning of his name, which is messenger. We aren't together anymore, or at least for now. But he consistently delivered the most amazing, beautiful expressions of love to me on a regular basis. I have begun to believe that maybe it was the message I was supposed to fall in love with, not the messenger...
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RE: Pure love, a sacred breed
RE: Libra woman and Scorpio man - can it work??
Wow that is great! I too feel like my Scorpio is a Greek God! I remember the night he "found" me, I thought he was the most amazing man I'd ever seen. I told my friends I'd met and Adonis with movie star good looks! The thing is, he was attracted to not only my physical beauty (which he says constantly) but the PASSION. He connected with my passion. I'm a musician and he listened to me all night, and was ready to ravish me in the parking lot. The audience was actually commenting on his intensity and worried about me.
I think that is such a major thing for a scorpio, to connect with someone's passion. He and I talk about that a lot. It's important to me too. I felt someone who connects to my passion in the music with such a ferocity, must be a keeper.
Congrats! Wow, you were chosen. You are the one for him. Doesn't that feel grand?? Ask him about his passion...that will keep the fire burning. I don't mean, attraction, I mean his true heart's desire passion....music, work, art, whatever it is.
RE: Scorpio Males - What is THEIR deal?!
Wow I got so much out of what you wrote regarding your latest Scorpio relationship. I'm about 10 mos. into it with a Scorpio. I've never dated or even come in contact with a Scorpio male. He found me though...wow did he ever...swept me away for sure. I'm a gemini with a cancer moon. Lord help me. But I what I found interesting that you said was the whole timing issue. That is our problem too. He was the most sunny, eager, fun, outgoing, confident, persistant guy I'd ever met. How could I resist?? He is in love with me and doesn't want me to EVER leave him. But here are the terms: No phone, no seeing other, no emails, only texting until he finds a job and feels more "put together." He can't deal with life until he gets a job and is working again.
Part of me wants to let go until things are better, and hope the fun guy returns to me. But I'm also mindful of "kicking a dog when he's down." I do love him and if that is true, what does love do? It is patient, kind, understanding, not demanding, but offers unconditional kindness. I don't understand his way of thinking, nevertheless it is his reality and he does love me.
Thanks for you post! Wow it helps.
RE: Scorpio man's fear of love
I wonder if there are any successful Gemini/ Scorpio relationships that exist in the world? I think I've read on these forums and elsewhere of many, many successful ones. Again, if you believe in astrology, then you must look at the moon, and other planets. Even numerology applies here, which all point to this Gem/Scorp relationship being VERY compatible. Go figure.
Was just wondering if anyone has experienced a scorpio's fear of intimacy before? Really that's all. Thanks
RE: Scorpio man's fear of love
Thanks everyone for all your input. I really appreciate it all..
I know he's not married with children. He wants children, wants a relationship with me, but has indicated he doesn't feel worthy. I'm very put together, emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually. He his attracted to my heart and soul, but feels he needs to be able to support and take care of me in the style I'm accustomed to . The no phone calls...well he insists if we talk on the phone or see each other, he won't be able to stop his obsession, or attraction, and he MUST focus on work, finding work. He is resolute in a very determined way that we wait for the RIGHT time to be together physically.
I know how this all sounds. It looks suspicious and I am a smart cookie. Thanks for your concerns, i will consider them all carefully!
RE: Scorpio man's fear of love
Well thanks for the insight, I guess. We do have some compatibility in our moon, venus and mars signs. But really I'm just trying to understand some specific fears of scorpio men. I'm not looking for men with certain signs, but someone who moves me the way he does. I'd like to understand him better. Not leaving because of our sun signs, I'd like to work with it. He's worth it.
Scorpio man's fear of love
I'm a gemini and am involved with a scorpio man. We are both in our forties. He definitely found me, wanted me, and made that very clear from the first time we met. I'm a professional musician and he heard me perform. He responded to my passion in the music like no one ever has before. The audience was riveted by the energy he was directing toward me with such oblivious abandon. People love my music, but I've never had anyone so "get me" and my passion in such a way.
Anyway, I responded to his emails, friendly and professional, but soon realized there was such a soul connection, things in common, music, passion, honesty, truth. His sincerity and joy just captured my heart. I'm very careful about not putting out a vibe to fans, but there was something about our connection that I couldn't resist. It does feel divine.
So he invited me to have coffee, I made the plans. He no showed. He had a good excuse. He begged me to invite him to hear the music, so I did. He no showed. He had a good excuse. He begged me to keep emailing, to let him call me, to see me, always telling me how beautiful I am (which is true), and complimenting me constantly, telling me I am the woman he has waited for his whole life. But he has so much fear. I fell hard for him and he for me. Both of us realizing this connection is rare. I feel his sincerity, his vulnerability, his fear. He told me he wanted to be close me, but was "too attracted". He always asks if I'm going to run away, if he's scaring me? His intensity is different, and I can see why women would be fearful. But now that I've known him for 6 months, I know he is a gentle, kind, loving man, born with intense passion.
But still he won't talk to me on the phone, only texting, on his terms. He emails the most loving, kind words I've ever heard, always responding to me. At first he was the intiator, now it is always me. I am pulling back, because it is uncomfortable to chase a guy, when I don't need to. Sometimes when I text, he won't respond. His rocket-like pursuit has changed, and yet our feelings have grown into something very real.
I guess I'm ready for more, and to see him in person, risking the attraction and the "merge" of passion. I'll take the risk. He worries so much that he won't look good enough. This guy has movie star looks. How long should I carry this relationship? He was so much in pursuit, but now has pulled way back. I believe out of fear. He is unemployed and has stated many, many times he doesn't feel good about himself right now. Wants to have himself put together before we connect physically. We have talked about waiting for the "right time" but both of us are so attracted and the waiting is painful. I sometimes wonder if he isn't getting relief elsewhere while waiting for the right time for us?
I know I'm all over the place with this post. But really I'd love some feedback on what is up with his pull back and fear? When he is in contact he tells me that I'm the kind of woman he wants in his life. He finds new ways of telling me how right I am for him, that he wants to say more when the time is right. I want him in my life everyday, or at least 2-3 times a week in text, phone, in person, but he is hesitant. Why is he so afraid of me? Why doesn't he just let me love him?
Any ideas? I know he's in love, so please come at me from that place.