Thanks so much Moonliel! I posted that so long ago and I never expected a response now, but something drew me to the forum today and it was such a welcomed treat to hear your words. It was kinda hard because some people are so quick to assume I had ulterior motives, or tried to make me feel like I was an awful and selfish person in this friendship...which I know is simply not the case!
I really appreciated you taking the time to share your personal feelings. That is precisely what I hoped for...an aquarian who would try to help me understand them better. That, my friend, you have certainly done. : )
I am so completely different.....so into deep, intimate personal relationships....so open with my feelings that I allow myself to become far too vulnerable. Although I cannot relate to it, I am fascinated with his ability to "clam-up" and protect himself.......a trait I sometimes wish I possessed....at least a little. I want to die if I hurt another and he shrugs it all off. Although we are complete opposites in so many ways, and yes...it is so easy to allow myself to get hurt sometimes.....I enjoy his company as he offers a great deal of diversity to my other friendships, and very insightful perceptions.....often contrary to my own.
As I read your post, many things came together and made sense to me.... like pieces of a puzzle. I am so glad to hear that his need for space is not personal...which I just didn't understand. I am learning how different we all are and how important flexibility is in each of us.
I know that I must be important to him, even if he is never able to express that the way my other friends and I are so comfortable doing. I know that friendships are worth working towards better understanding, and I greatly appreciate your help in my quest.
Now the hard part, trying to be the kind of friend he needs, rather than the kind of friend I tend to want to be and/or have! : )
PS. Thanks for the comment about the cookies! I love to do things like that for my friends and I am glad to see that everyone didn't think that make me a crazy stalker! People are so quick to jump to conclusions, when there ARE actually people out there who are still head-over-heals in-love with their spouse and friends are precisely that--friends! : )