Captain, thank you so much! That was VERY helpful to me.

Flowyair

Okay, wow. So all and all the first relationship sounds most fufilling emotional wise & physically.

Can you tell me if in the first relationship both female and male would be satisfied emotionally as far as lovingness, nurturing, physically and spiritually. Would the male help bring out the females creativeness? Would the female stifle the males creativeness/passionate side or flourish it.

Thank you for all of your helpful insights once again. It has been most helpful to me!

Hi Captain,

First of all I wanted to thank you for answering my question so indepthly. Thanks!

I have a couple follow-up questions.

In relationship one do you know what would help create emotional stability between them?

Lastly, for the second relationship who is the parent and who is the child?

Is it a passionate relationship? Tx so much for any insight you shed.

Captain, can you give me the ins and outs on these two relationship matches.

2/11/76 female and 7/11/1978 male

&

1/16/1984 and 7/11/1978

I'm very curious to know. Thank you!!!

Oh sorry, here is correct link to my fb account: http://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.php?id=100000722247404

Kmuse, thank you so much for your really touching comments. I found your response to me very heartwarming. I appreciate you taking the time to give me your opinion as well as your well wishes for me and my family.

I have to admit I needed some uplifting today. I have had a very tough day emotional wise. I have actually just been coming to terms with myself that he and I may never be. Maybe he wasn't what I thought he was to begin with type doubts surface.. Especially when I see how immature his girlfriend behaves. Deep down though I still believe and trust that I have very good intuition and I don't think we would have connected so well emotionally if there weren't genuine heart felt feelings to begin with.

In regards, to the marriage I did get the divorce papers going, however, I have stalled it for now due to fear and not wanting to look back with regrets later.

Thank you again for the much needed encouragement. I will definitely keep in touch with you.

I am interested in your story as well. I will see if I can find it and be of a support to you also.

Here is my FB account link I use for Tarot, please feel free to friend me.

Hugs!! Flowyair

http://www.facebook.com/

Hi Kmuse,

I'm sorry I did not get back to your question sooner. I haven't been on lately.

I understand what you are saying about my part in this situation alot better now. I will say that he kinda rushed into things with me too though. I was honest with him from the beginning that I was trying to make a decision whether to stay in my marriage or end it. Although I was leaning toward the latter. He immediately started talking about things working out between himself and I. I know he probably did not realize at the time really what he was getting himself into fully, but neither did I.

Well at the end of the day this is how things have worked out:

He emailed me a few more times. The stopped emailing me right before Christmas for almost two weeks straight! In the meantime I emailed him every few days and finally on Christmas Day I text messaged him directly and he finally answered me back. (I think he was trying to end things with me that is why he did not answer me during that 12 day period). Anyway, told me he missed me and he had been busy with school finals, work and music and he asked to see me. After he almost canceled on me we did meet up and we talked and hugged. Everything felt so strong emotionally. He made alot of eye contact with me. I gave him some presents and a very heart felt card (although I knew I probably shouldn't have since he was distancing himself from me physically). I cared about him so much I did anyway. He did not give me any gifts as he said he "I went Christmas shopping, but I didn't think to get you anything, it's not like you could wear anything I give you anyway." He also admitted he was distancing himself. He told me next Christmas he was going to see me no matter what - even if it was just for a moment. I then got upset and asked him if he didn't think we would be together by then and he said, "It's not really up to me, it's up to you."

So I do agree with your point Kmuse that he was just as unsure about his future with me too. As I was the one really that was unavailable afterall. I realize that I should have just worked through my marriage situation and just left him out of it no matter how much I was drawn to him. It was not fair to him. I also realize now that I was not in a happy marriage as I called it above. It was a secure marriage - there is a difference. I realize now I was not getting my emotional, intellectual and spiritual needs met for so long that I had forgotten about them all together. I remembered how I had felt I was settling when I got married and how my wedding day was not the happiest of my life. I had been adapting in my marriage all these years to try and fill in the gaps where necessary - adapting to my husband's needs and wants - however, he was not doing that for me. He had been cold emotionally to my daughter (not his biological daughter he raised since she was 3) for the whole 14 1/2 years he was with me and had alienated her. There were so many things I was not satisfied with in the marriage. I no longer felt alive as I was not truly enjoying my life with him. Intellectually and chemistry wise I don't even think we are compatible. I had bridged his language gap and curbed my own intellectualism in order to communicate with him and it was very depriving for me. Intellectually the entire relationship has been that way. You may ask yourself why did I even get married to him? Well quite simply, we met when I was in a very vulnerable stage and has lost the love of my life to suicide. Luis was stable and I told myself I needed someone - and he needed me too and one thing lead to another and it was convenient. He also had the same high living standards as I did. With Joe though was a true connection there. That is rare. Anyway, I now realize that I have to make things right in my own life and then once I'm free I can then explore and follow my heart. I only hope I'm lucky enough to meet someone again with whom I share such a connection as I did him. I love him.

Joe and I told each other we loved each other, and seen each other one more time. Then we ran into each other "coincidentally" on New Year's Day. We talked and he emailed me a couple more times then he stopped all contact with me. He wouldn't even read me emails. I did see him looking from his window toward mine and he would stare at me if he seen me from afar. He did hold eye contact with me and smiled and waved two months later, but he did meet someone else at his job and he has since moved in with her.

In the meantime, I'm still working on my own life. I keep in touch with a few people from this sight who are very special to me. It has been a tough, but life changing event in my life.

Thanks for your interest in my story. Take care Kmuse.

Wow Kels! You have changed focus/priorities to the extreme. In a good waysof course.

I think it is great that are putting yourself first now. I think sometimes we have to hit rock bottom to get to the point to really help ourselves sometimes... Atleast that is what seems to be happening to me as well.

I like how you added: " I know Scorp will stick his head back into my life." You and your intuitive side. Haha. Must be reassuring to know that and still be able to just focus on yourself. I will ask you when you have time to brief me on what was the turning point for you. I know your going out tonight so don't worry about today just when you can.

Have fun tonight!

Katie: (i didnt turn back i kept on holding him) and then the girl laughed (like im guessing about the position we had) my crab laughed back and kissed my forehead... ->> i think he is starting to "come out with me" like demostrating strongly that we are a couple... wow im seeing signs of positivity!!!

Flowy: Thats awesome Katie. He is def "coming out" slowly but surely it seems with your relationship. See things are happening just s l o w l y. Hahaha Hey, but there still progressing forward.

Luazinha- okay I see. It sounds like he's in the "off mode" right now or "pause mode" like Kels said - while he processes things and takes some "time off." They are so adept this balancing act and keeping us hanging on as unsettling as their behavior is to us Hey, atleast your getting some play on your end - as on my end I have nothing.