I am a Scorpio woman. My daughters father (my ex lol) is a Scorpio. My daughter is a Scorpio. While Scorpio's do differ between the sexes, the differences are subtle. I'll give you a little bit of my own perspective on what you can expect and what you should look out for when coupling with a Scorpio male and share with you my own experiences of knowing a Scorpio male for the past 23 years.
He will most assuredly mask his feelings for you in such a way as to keep you guessing about the depth of his involvement with you. This is a defense mechanism for him. Scorpio's are incapable of shallow emotions, Georgia. We can't remain detached once we become involved despite appearances to the contrary. He may act aloof and noncommittal, but, trust me, this is so far from the truth that it's ridiculous. When we Scorpio's fall in love we fall hard. And it's absolutely terrifying for us. His nonchalant demeanor is to keep you from realizing the great power you have to inflict great emotional pain and mental anguish should you choose to part ways with him.
His awkwardness around your children should not be taken as a sign that he doesn't like them. No, Georgia, he simply isn't sure of himself. He's not convinced that they like him so he's trying very hard to control his behavior and his approach to them to ensure that they WILL like him. He's probably waiting for an opportunity to bond with them. Your children probably think he's a little odd, don't they? He puts out vibes he doesn't particularly want to because, once again, he's protecting his delicate insides. Scorpio's have an unnatural fear of rejection. So much so that, frequently, we sabotage our own relationships so that we never have to face being cast off. We figure that our mates, friends, associates, etc., are inevitably going to leave us eventually and we don't want to really wait around for that. So we push and prod and behave atrociously even when our insides scream at us to stop.
One very important character trait of a Scorpio is our need for freedom. It's an absolute requirement for us to survive. I can guarantee that in all likelihood your man wants nothing more than a committed relationship with you, Georgia, but he'll deny himself, and you, that very thing if he feels like he will end up trapped or chained within the stuffy confines of an inflexible routine. You need to show him that life with you doesn't have to be an episode of All In the Family. You're not Edith and he's not Archie and life together doesn't have to conform to the rigors of a militant-type schedule or routine. As a Scorpio he's probably spontaneous and varied in his interests. He lives to explore and adventure. He's looking for the next experience.
Scorpio's also require the freedom to withdraw from the hustle and bustle of living amongst a group and find a nice, quiet, somewhat dimly lit corner to be by ourselves. We must be able to expel the chattering of all other voices but our own from our heads. To be with a Scorpio man you will come to expect and anticipate this frequent event. It will be up to you to acquire the ability to sense when he needs to get away and encourage and support him during these times. Don't take it personally, Georgia. It has nothing to do with you but allowing him this flexibility will strengthen your relationship with him and he'll be a much more relaxed and well-rounded individual because of it.
Scorpio's often are wrongly perceived as being self-involved or self-centered people because of our need for solitude and our pursuit of our own interests, but this is simply not true. Absolutely we are as capable as any other sign of being selfish or unsupportive of our partners, our children, family, friends, etc., but when a Scorpio disappears to the golf course or to the garage or our room and responsibilities get neglected it's not out of selfishness, it's our approach to self-preservation. We MUST ground ourselves. Organize our thoughts. Develop strategies for the coming week. Analyze situations or events. Sort through the accumulated clutter that our minds collect. We talk to God or dead ancestors or the deceased family pet. We are literally getting our shit together so we can approach our responsibilities and self-made goals with some kind of workable plan.
Talk to your man, Georgia. Tell him exactly what you want from him because if you don't you run the risk of having him misinterpret your needs and desires. When he knows fully what you want from him he will go off into his little dark corner and set up a strategy that will allow him to meet your needs and his as well. Ask him what HE wants and make sure your questions are specific rather than vague or ambiguous. But above all else, make sure that he knows that you want him.
Good luck to you.