Captain, thank you! Your last line, especially, is spot-on - those are two of his negative traits I struggled with greatly. I think both of us settled into the "womb" for too long and neglected ourselves and our lives outside the relationship. We are both slow to heal from perceived or actual slights as well, and letting those knock around our little insular world was very damaging. A lot to work on, but this will help guide my path. Thank you again.