This is amazing. Thank you. I am a PIsces and also going through my Saturn Return... big changes. This is exactly what I needed.
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RE: The month of Pisces: Healing Breakthroughs & Active Inspiration
RE: Captain... reading for Pisces woman and Cancer man?
Captain, thank you! Your last line, especially, is spot-on - those are two of his negative traits I struggled with greatly. I think both of us settled into the "womb" for too long and neglected ourselves and our lives outside the relationship. We are both slow to heal from perceived or actual slights as well, and letting those knock around our little insular world was very damaging.
A lot to work on, but this will help guide my path. Thank you again.
Captain... reading for Pisces woman and Cancer man?
I've been seriously dating a Cancer on and off (mostly on) for the past 5.5 years, living together for the past 3, and we recently split up. Earlier this year we were planning to move to a different city together, and were talking about marriage. He went to the other city before me because of a new job. I was meant to go in September. He called me a couple of weeks ago and told me he thought I shouldn't move because he has nothing to offer me as a partner right now, and that he needs time alone to work through his own issues. I went to see him this past weekend, we talked a lot, and agreed to be apart for now.
He has had significant health issues in the past year with a chronic, degenerative illness. I stood by him during this time with all my heart and was really looking forward to our future together, even though I understood that his health would be declining, though we don't know how quickly. It seems that he has sunk into a deep depression and is pushing away everyone who's close to him. He tells me he doesn't want to make me miserable and I need to have a happy life without him.
Apart from this, there are some interpersonal issues, mostly communication and trust, that have plagued us throughout our relationship. Being a Cancer, he is very secretive and closed up. As a Pisces, I can be off in my own world for days on end and, during that time, not give him the love and attention he needs. I too struggled with depression for many years, but finally began seeking help earlier this year and it's really made a huge difference. I finally felt that I was in a place to give my all to our relationship and move forward with it. But he's not in that place right now, with his illness, the move and a new job taking up much of his energy and stressing him out. He works a LOT - like 70 hours a week - and this is very bad for his illness and his mental state. He's always needed a lot of rest.
However - underneath all this, we have a very deep connection and truly love one another. It's true that Cancer and Pisces feel each other's emotions! I feel that this is why we were never able to work on repairing our relationship - we've both been in bad places, emotionally, for much of the past five years, and were holding each other back in that regard because we were picking up on each other's negativity. Like I said, I've moved past a lot of that and am ready to give my all and support him as best I can. I've never felt as strongly about anyone as I do about him and he understands me in a way that no one else does. I know he loves me deeply.
We are still talking, though living hours apart. When we parted, he told me he loved me and that I was his best friend. I told him the same. He said I would see that this was for the best. I don't know about that. I'm worried about him and want him to get help for his depression. We didn't discuss the future in detail, but this wasn't a definitive "we are breaking up forever" situation.
So I guess my question is - what is the nature of our relationship? Ideally, I would like to see him work on his "issues" until we're both in a place to be good partners to one another. I want to get back together with him. I realize that this won't happen anytime soon. My plan in the meantime is to keep our communication open, but give him the space and alone time he needs, and keep on loving him. I don't think I could stop even if I wanted to.
My birthday is 3/4/83, his is 6/26/81.
I would love to hear your insights. Thank you!