I’m a pisces and I’ve been dating a scorpio for about 4 months now. When we met I told him that things needed to be taken slowly and he agreed as he felt that he had always been commitment phobic, being 40 and only having had one significant relationship (and this was long distance and less than 2 years). I had thought he’d be a safe bet, knowing that I had always had the tendency to move quickly in relationships which has never worked out in the end.
My scorpio man and I have come a long way in four months, most of which seemed to be guided by him. He’s already taken me on two trips, he’s brought me to family dinner at Grandma’s house, he was anxious for me to meet all of his close friends and he talks about marriage and children quite often (in general…not making plans with me, or so I don’t think).
So you’re probably wondering what my issue is here, well this is the first time I’ve dated a scorpio and I’ve had the fear put into me by friends who have been stung by them before. I can honestly say that I don’t think I’ve ever really been ‘in love’ before as I’ve been in three very long term, serious committed relationships and have always walked away without too much emotional turmoil and continued on my journey with no issues.
This one is different. I find myself making a conscious effort to keep up a strong, independent façade in front of him. He’s on my mind, day and night and even in my dreams. I have to keep myself busy for fear that I might contact him too much. I seem to do well when we’re not around each other, but sometimes when we’re even in the same room, the intensity is so strong I find it hard to breathe. I’m struggling to keep control over my emotions and what scares me is that from one day to the next he changes and I can’t quite figure out his intentions or how he is feeling towards me.
Some days I think ‘there’s no doubt about it, this man obviously feels the same about me as I do with him’ and then the very next week I find myself wondering if I’m just being naive in thinking this because he becomes distant, or distracted. He’s never given me any other reason to think that he’s not in this, it’s just these infrequent moments that he seems…different.
I guess what I am trying to determine here is whether or not I should let go of my fears and dive in, taking the risk that I might feel the painful sting of a scorpio man, or should I continue to hold my wall up, only letting him in when it feels safe and at the same time preventing this from going somewhere that could potentially be something amazing?
Can anyone give me some more insight on what to look for in my scorpio man to alert me that he is not on the same boat as me?