Dear JusticeGirl...you've had good advice and your choice of name says it all. You yourself are the Queen of Swords, sad, yes, damaged perhaps, but not broken.
Your Tarot wishes to remind you of the gifts of the Queen of Swords and to remind you they remain yours to use.
A Queen of Swords is even sometimes a legal professional when I meet her as a client. She is sometimes a doctor, dentist, scientist or musician, and quite often single, divorced or widowed.
Personally I have read for many Gemini, Libra and Aquarius women for whom this archetype is a good symbolic likeness.
Unhappiness need not accompany separation, though, and marriage as you have found can be lonely indeed.
Whatever this Queen's line of work she has a precise mind, careful. It is not like her to react hastily.
However, and here comes a challenge. It implies no blame or judgement whatsoever but is only an appeal to the deepest human understanding of 'Justicegirl.'
The Queen of Swords is actually quite formidable in her quiet way. She can sometimes be unyielding and unforgiving of others failures. Betrayal in paticular, she struggles to come to terms with.This is because she has a strong code of honour herself.
But there's nothing like feeling in the wrong to bring out the worst in others. We all NEED to be able to think well of ourselves and we can all do something stupid. We may then, being caught on the back foot, rather than apologise, make things worse out of resentment at being in the wrong.
This takes a lot of rising above, for the wronged party, but also for the wrong doer.
Many marriages experience and overcome extra-marital folly, but guilt and shame are crushing weights that can bring out the worst in people.
The Queen of Swords may be deeply sad, but she is no victim. She does has choices and options and rights. She may need to get online and Google some legal and financial facts, then seek professional advice, and this is the approach your cards now seem to be suggesting.
So far, and for the best of reasons, you have felt unable to release your husband either by reconciliation or separation. It is strange to think that as the wronged party, you are the one who may need to initiate reconciliation. But it is often true, just as people who are very ill, often have to reassure healthy family members that they are OK, rather than ask for reassurance themselves.
Your Queen of Swords is recognising your grief but suggesting the way out of confusion and indecision is the gathering and contemplation of cool, hard facts, seeking advice with regard to finances, property etc. Cutting the Gordion knot.
The Queen of Swords waits, researches, thinks, then finally makes a decision and sticks by it.
I feel you are telling yourself in your cards that now it is time to TAKE CHARGE...either by planning for separation or creating a last opportunity for reconciliation.
IF you wanted to offer him this chance, it would mean asking him to do something for you.
What it is doesn't really matter. Ask calmly and clearly and in total confidence for it to be done.
Phrase it beginning with 'Please would you....?'
Crucial to attempting this is NOT to make any reference to past events or present difficulties, not one word.
As in: Let's start again. Today is a new day. And if you get a 'no' say 'Ok' without any anger, and leave it.
Accept the no, wait a day or two and see what happens.
If reconciliation is not an option, well, The Queen of Swords ASSESSES the situation IDENTIFIES her gaps in necessary knowledge, does some RESEARCH maybe goes to a legal advisor re: finances/property, reaches a JUDGEMENT and acts on it, and by that point, there is no dissuading her.
If you have made the decision to cut free, you will not be doing the 'wrong' thing unless the card is being drawn reversed. The card, right way up, affirms severance/endings/clarification as a positive, not negative choice.
Queen of Swords finally suggests wearing blue,violet, grey silver, white, not too much black, and getting plenty of fresh air and exercise for for health, ease of mind and equilibrium.
Hope this helps. It is just one other reader's intepretation to use as you judge best.
Best of luck.