Nothing more then you have already given.
The 4 of coins is the career of your gf...the most important thing at this time in your relationship. However, dependent on how willing you are to have a relationship that is easy-going and supportive for her without demanding more right now, I see no reason that you and she can't be together.
It's like this...if you slow down and accept a position of "best friend, confidant and shoulder to cry on and tuck under when SHE feels like it" the more comfort she is going to get from being with you. Slow down on the gifts...that's a little to possessive feeling to women sometimes. However, because of her "nine of swords/nightmares", she does need and crave the special support that a man who is "just there" and really seems to know her would be when she is "needy".
What if you knew you would be her "best friend" for the next 10 years, while she works out her career issues and control needs, but also with "physical intimacy" which I guarantee, she wouldn't want if you didn't mean a lot to her? Would you accept that?
Just make sure that you are really listening to her when she says things about her life, her wants and her changes so you know her "crop" as well as she does...and she will subconciously learn and care about you as well...without the fear of letting you have too much control.
Hope that makes sense and I didn't get too personal. Best of luck...it sounds like you really care about her and that means more then you may realize.