PLEASE think twice. I have been in the same predictament with two children and a husband that "I thought " at the time " did not care." I was 40 ish at the time... now I am 48. The man I let convince me that "he was Mr. Wonderful" back paddled and left me right before the divorce was finalized!! Yes, my road with my husband was rocky. He was a 12+ year alcoholic...abusive one but then cleaned up onl to become quiet and insecure. I didn't know how to handle him and vice versa. This guy who was younger made me "feel" good about myself. Hindsight is alwas 20/20. I wish now that I would have worked on more communication with my husband instead of listening to the false lies of someone who "I thought...loved me." He didn't. Since then, dating has been miserable. Good guys are unheard of. My X wasn't that "bad" afterall........... "I wish" I could go back and change things but I can't. ... YOU STILL HAVE TIME. Do whatever you can and search for what attracted you to your husband. At least try....it IS worth it. Get awa from the gu with the store.... it will onl bring confusion and torment to you. As Dorthy said, "There's no place like home." Good LUck!!

I have been in a relationship with the same man for a little over five years now. The first two were on again off again because I would have problems with my x boyfriend calling my home or cell, stalking me etc... and literally driving the person I truly was in love with... away. No matter what I did though, restraining orders... yelling..screaming... keeping no contact with the X .. I was always "penalized" if that is a choice of words for this imbicil making a problem for us. The guy I was in love with would basically leave me alone to "fight my own battles" with him. It wasn't unti just a few months ago that I found out at the time this was going on, the guy I was in love with saw his x girlfriend and at one time had a sexual affair with another woman. I guess that's really the reason he left me "alone" ...now that I know this. Anyway, about three years ago he lost his job due to major surgery and has been totally disabled. He's gained about 100 pounds over the past two years. In this time he's also proposed with 2 lovely engagement rings BUT the first one went back to the jewler (he kept comparing me to his x while we were on our engagement weekened...even during love making) and the second one he says" he never intends to give back. I believe the second engagement was only spurred because I left him due to his disinterest in me and our relationship...and I found a man who made me happy...BUT ...let the old "love" back in with the "i'll change" promise. I've been dealing with his sexual problems and lived with them too which is a problem in itself because now he says "he doesn't want to use the treatment the doctor gives him (testosterone gel fub) because it's harmful." He's become way too lazy...doesn't care when he sees me or if he pleases me.. never talks about a future... and sex??? I feel and I have told him ...he treats me like I'm his sister instead of a lover. He cuts me down and I'm intelligent. He calls me an "idiot, retard....moron.." for simple things. He acts like he cannot stand to be with me but says, ONLY when he doesn't have his kids for that week... " If I didn't want to be with you I wouldn't...." I know he's just coming around on his weeks when he doesn't have his kids because then he shuts down his house and comes to mine....saves on being lonely and on the bills. Does anyone else agree that I've been stupid in love for too long? I have I think.