Well, I have been on here now reading as much as I can about these Cancer men and their mysterious ways... looks like I have my work cut out for me! It's so funny to read these posts because I am seeing how much of a Crab my Cancer really is! He danced around the possibility of dating for two months, acting as though we were together by being posessive of me and protective, but then as soon as I would do the same he would get upset and say he didn't want to lose his freedom! How crazy and contradictory! It took me going on a trip eight hours away for him to finally realize he wanted to be with me!

I can't believe your Cancer man came back after so long and acted like it had been just the other day! That's how mine is with things. I always joke around and say he operates on "Jim Time" and that 6 hours to the rest of the world is less than 6 minutes to him. I suppose it's the stubborn Taurus in me that doesn't like this change in structure.

I suppose that I will have to understand that to my cancer man thinks he is putting in a good amount of effort. I would get frustrated too if the tables were turned and when I felt like I was doing a lot for him he told me he felt like I was hardly doing anything. I'm guessing it's the nurturing side of me that gets frustrated when he disappears because I want to be able to comfort him and make him feel better when he's upset instead of letting him retreat to his shell. What it looks like I need to realize is that letting him retreat there is going to have to be my way of being there for him. Letting him comfortably have that time, and knowing i'll be there when he comes back. Does it ever get old to be so pursuant of a man? That's a fear of mine in this...

Earlier today he told me that he "has to come up with new ways to mess with me" because I "know too much already" and he "isn't ready for me to read his mind yet." He said it in a friendly manner, but I can see he has some controlling tendencies. He loves to see me get frustrated. I'm not sure why. Maybe it's a test? But he will giggle like a school child when gets my feathers ruffled. I feel like I'm dealing with a child half the time when I'm with him. Is that a typical Cancer thing? I was really surprised though, because he also asked me today how I was feeling. He said "Hey Babe, you seem to be a little stressed lately and I'm wondering if everything is okay. Is there anything bothering you at all?" From what I've gathered this is not a usual Cancer man? I feel like there are more questions than answers about him, but it is definitely part of the intrigue! Even when I answer questions, somehow he answers with another question and manipulates the conversation into something else completely without me realizing it until later! He's a sneaky one!

He gave me his word that we will be seeing each other tonite since he was supposed to last night but got distracted at a social event, so I will have to use this new knowledge to talk to him about this. I'll keep you posted on how everything goes! Thank you for your advice! And I hope all is well with you on your end!

I figured I'd make this as a separate topic although it is about the same Cancer man in my life! He mentioned to me the other day about his insecurities (I always let him speak about those things on his own time, and he opens up much better that way). He told me they are mostly because of his mother. I know they have a very tumultuous relationship and I am wondering how this might effect how he perceives women and their role in his life in the future. I know they usually say we woman have to play it subtle but rough in terms of having to out-shine a cancerian man's mother. But what if she's a big part of his life for bad reasons? Is he then expecting his partner to take up that "mommy" role and fill that void? Does anyone have experience with this type of situation?

So obviously the lot of us has come to terms with the fact that these lovely cancer men aren't easy to handle. My current issue is with my cancer man (who finally committed of his own accord!) and his desire for space and personal time. I am struggling to come to terms with it, because it makes me feel like I'm not a priority in his life. Now that he is committed I feel that a certain level of communication is necessary. I'm not asking to hear from him all day, every day. But over the weekend I received two short text messages in three days! I tried not to be sore about it, and responded only when he contacted me so as not to make him feel smothered. He will say he is going to call me, and that it won't be "too late" but then loses track of time and doesn't call me until 1 am! I am frustrated because I like to have plans set, and he just seems to work on a time frame that isn't even a frame at all - or rather, it's all about him!

We always maintained very open and honest communication between the two of us, and so I feel like if I don't share this with him he will know I'm keeping things from him and i'll lose his trust. On the flip side, if I share I feel that I will risk him becoming more distant for fear of losing his ability to hide away when he needs to. I have tried to be as understanding as possible, but right now it's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place! Any suggestions on how to approach this situation? I'm at a loss!

** And as a side note, this is my first Cancer man. It seems that all I have done is constantly focused on how to make him comfortable and happy... when do they start completely reciprocating? Do they ever?? Or maybe I am being too stubborn to see the subtle ways they show it? I think he enjoys being chased by me. Sometimes literally! Last night, I made a joke and he pretended to get mad and stormed out onto the deck. I laughed thinking he would come back in shortly after making his point, but he sat out there until I came out to see what happened to him! These men are a challenge... he's lucky i'm up for it!