Hi, he certainly got his cake and ate it! Hope he chokes using people like that. Some men - (not all there are good male human beings out there - just takes time to find them - they tend to hide in my experience). Some men can love two women at the sametime. Prehistoric programming and a lack of emotional development. They love in a different way, we all have the power to love more than one person at different levels at the sametime. I am being forgiving here. Although he may just cheapened the word 'love' to be intimate with you both. He has not matured and his behaviour is not worthy of you. Please put this experience behind you, move on and be the gorgeous woman that you are to attract the man that you deserve.
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RE: Double life devestation
RE: I too am heart broken and cannot move on......
HI, I am sad for you that you have had to experience such a devastating situation when it should have been a blessing. However, what does not break you, makes you. You are gorgeous, strong and sensible. It takes time and be kind to yourself Each day moves you more away from the situation, become the woman that you are - wise and strong. Thank the moon that you found out quite early on in the relationship.
RE: Should i make a move?
Hi, he maybe shy (yes, there are shy men), as you are younger and gorgeous and has had to wait until now from August to get to know you. He is sensible in that he did not start a relationship in work, (the rumours, i've been there) but he just dropped a text. How definite was your answer he might think that you was being polite and was not really serious about seeing him. Might be an idea to send him a friendly text, saying hi, mention how you are doing, I would not mention about going out, keep it short and sweet - let him do the chasing. Sometimes men do 'retreat' they do have some very strange behaviour issues. But then this all part of the fun. Hope he flirts back and you enjoy it. He would be mad not to.
RE: What does my future hold with this connection
Hi, I don't know if I can offer any advice but it maybe an idea to keep a personal diary. Then when you look back you maybe able to define the reality from the fantasy and smile at how good he made you feel.
It would be wonderful if this was the 'man'. He may be just seeing you as a friend. I can understand how you are cautious and worried that it could turn into something bad. But you cant help yourself thinking about him all the time if that is the way you feel. Just be aware that he is human and don't build him up into Prince Charming too much. Develop the friendship - we all need friends.
RE: Feel Like a Fool
Hi, You are not a fool. You acted from your heart with integrity. Be proud that you have respect for yourself. If he is not able to wait and know someone before having an intimate relationship then he is not worthy of you. Yes, you fancy him, but having an emotional connection is of far more value in the longterm for a future for you both than the physical. Lets face it men are different and that is why I am attracted to them. But they have to respect my way which in this day and age is probably more old fashioned than most. (it works for me!) Stay cool, make yourself happy and let him earn your intimacy. If he is decent he will feel more valued and more of a special man.
All the best.