the saying goes: when the man turned around he turned into a grain of salt. your friend is confused. don't be confused with them. at least not enough to give up the goodies regardless of the high, ok. when someone breaks up with you that should be the end of any thoughts of an intimate relationship again. ok. friends. no meeting at anyone's house or going back to anyone's house after drinks or what have you. feed that friendship with a long handled spoon. and keep going forward in your life the whole way. you don't have to be mean about it you just have to mean what you do. keep promises to your self. if you know you feel good letting go don't disappoint yourself by picking it back up. console your inner child. protect your own neck.