Hi Peachyplanet, I read your post about questioning the venus sign.......I am a libra with a leo moon and a venus in leo but my mars is in sag. I am in love with a married sag who has a lot of aquarius in his chart but his venus is in libra as is my sun. We haven't seen each other for oaver a month but talked over the weekend as he asked me out to lunch. I couldn't go. He is calling me in the evenings which is highly unusual. We both admit we are sort of "addicted" to each other. He told me he was in love with me back in December but a lot has happened and he is definately staying for the kids (he had a bad childhood). All I can say is that he started this thing between us but has always been upfront with me. I have been seperated from my husband since January. What is your opinion on our planets and the fact it seems so easy for him to go a month without talking and now is buring up my phoneline?

Also, I am going to see him tomorrow about a matter that has nothing to do with our relationship. Any advice from all you Sags out there if I should just stick to the matter or also let him know I've been missing him?

I am a Libra/Leo/Scopio.......I have been having an affair with a Sag/Aquarius. We are both married only I seperated during the affair. I feel as though we are soulmates but never expected our relationship to get as intense as it did. We have broken it off 3 to 4 times as he has children I feel the guilt and he says he can't handle the lying. I know it is wrong and I have stayed away for 5 weeks......I broke down yesterday and called. I have noticed even from the beginnig when HE started the relationship between us that he does not like to call or initiate things...but is always happy when I do. He told me 5 weeks ago nothing had changed about his feelings for me but he is commited to his marraige which he is UNHAPPY for the kids and b/c he made the commitment. He says he will leave when his youngest goes to college....that is 9 years away. I am obviously not saying I will wait for him but I at the same time I feel we are suppose to be a part of each others lives. I do love him and it's just KILLING me. I miss him. Any advice?

Also, I am a Libra and he is a Sag. I notice he likes things to be easy.......whereas I will go through the hard stuff for something I really wany.

I know there are a lot of you out there knowledgable about soulmates. Once person said to me in one of my topics that souls are not always meant to be together. I am married and feel like I have found my soulmate in another married person. We are not together but I feel such a connection........I would love any advice on soulmates and twin souls or anything of that nature. This has been very hard for me.

Thank you everyone especially Maygoodcometous and DreamerNorth. I have not seen the lover in one month or talked to him. I have prayed about it, cried about it and so forth. I do miss him though but am determined to NOT call. He has not called either, interestingly enough. What do we think of that???? My husband and I are trying......I almost moved back out today but we had a long talk this morning and he is encourging me not to make any quick decisions. I finally admitted to him last night that my big need for space is b/c I am not sure we belong together. I'm not sure I can make him happy and he can give me what I need to be happy. That may sound trivial but it has taken me a long time to admit to him that we I dream of most in a relationship is not what we have. I am trying not to compare anything with the lover b/c reality is the lover and I have never had a chance to date like normal people and discover each other in that manner. We have both been married and not had that opportunity. The hard part is what I do know of him I feel some weird connection. For instance, I have no idea of this but I feel he has been away ( out of town). His energy seems very far away. On the other hand, he could be right here and we are losing our connection. He told me once that he was at a point where he felt like he needed to leave his wife or stay (b/c of me). Things got intense with us quickly and neither one expected it. I think he is making a real effort to stay away b/c he knows it is too "tempting." We have never been able to just be friends, the 3 or 4 times we have tried. A month not seeing him and no contact is a long time for us. I know I am focusing on him and a lot of you will tell me to focus on my husband........it his hard for me to do that when my connection with the lover remains. Someone said in one of these replys that sometimes you are not meant to actually be with your soulmate, I find that sad and wonder then why are they to be your soulmate?

I agree about letting things come to you naturally, when and if they are meant to be. The connection I feel with him is so strong to me but I am and have been really trying to let it go. It is just really hard as I am sure you understand. I do not reach out anymore......we will see what time brings. In the meantime I am so not sure about my marraige. I think I am not suppose to be there- he is wonderful but I feel lost.

Kim, I was the one who moved out and left the relationship so I really did not want to talk for a while. We stayed in touch over the phone and had lunch a couple of time when I was having a bad day. He was trying really hard to help and be patient with me as he thinks I am really depressed. I moved back into our house after 6 weeks away. I am still not sure I made the right decision, I can only take it one day at a time. In the meantime I am staying away from the other man and proud to say I have not called or talked to him in 2 weeks, that is big for me b/c he is like an addiction.

I agree with Dalia that he probably needs time. Needing space does not mean he doesn't love you and the best thing to do for a person who is not ready to talk or address the situation is love them enough to give them what they need. Hopefully he will do the same for you one day if you find yourself needs time and space. I say this b/c I require more space than the average person and through my seperation with my husband and now that I am home he understands that and gives it to me which makes our relationship stronger. The best thing to do is sit back, wait and concentrate on doing things to make YOU happy in the meantime. I know this will be VERY hard.

The hardest part is missing him. Yes, I have often wondered if he has had other affairs.........he says no. I am not so sure.