Hi, I don't know how gifted I am but I do have a little of life experience. I feel it's hard to pursue a relationship by going back and forth. Especially if both of you are being intimate w/ other people. I was recently told by a therapist that single people who have been intimate can't really establish friendships per say. So, I'm like you, I see this as a confusing situation. Looking at it in the long-run I think it would be best to forget about a relationship w/this guy.