Hey alleycat, how are things with you? I'm so glad you registered so that you could get some things off of your chest. I have found this to be very helpful in helping me deal with some of the things i have been going through the last few weeks. Jen inspired me to post on here as well and i thank her for starting this thread. These virgo men certainly are a strange breed living in their own world. Can I ask , how is your relationship with your husband. I ask because I am trying to work through that right now, trying to recapture some feelings I once had before this Virgo walked into my life and messed with my heart and told me he loved me. He has made quite a lasting impression and I 'm finding it very difficult to shake him. He is an unusual person ,not quite like anyone I have met before. On our most recent upheaval his wife found some text messages on his phone from me and I heard from him once 2 weeks ago and that was it. I'm trying to move on but it is so hard to get my head around some of the things he has said to me. Hang in there Alleycat you're not the only one bitten by the virgo.

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Leonida,

Thank you for your post. I am trying to be accepting and open to anything put forward to me by my husband. I am having a hard time dealing with the loss of someone else while trying to gain back the feelings i once had. I guess it all takes time and although I am patient this type of thing makes me feel very anxious and I need to just chill a little I guess. I would love to hear from other people that have dealt with this and what they did to move forward after an affair of the heart.

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Hi Sarah...my advice to you would be to read some of the postings under "the heart of a virgo man" you will find it very insightful and hopefully it will answer some of your questions.

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Trice...Good to hear from you again. How are things with Scorpio?

I'm glad I gave you a chuckle with my post. Today was a bad day I have been riddled with anxiety unfortunately. This evening is much better. TIme heals all. I just have to take one day at a time. I'm really trying to connect with my husband but I admit I am finding it somewhat difficult. I guess I need to give myself some time to heal and clear my head.

Any thoughts from anyone would be welcome

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Anybody ? Really needing some imput here. Would love to hear from Libra males if there are any out there or other people who have gone through the same sort of thing. Feeling a little lost right now.

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Hi all,

I have posted on here before in the love and relationships category. I am guilty of infidelity, I am a Capricorn wife of 22 years married to a Libra. I want to set things right in my marriage. My husband is aware of my actions and is forgiving. I must also point out that my husband is not a saint. He has been guilty of things in the past as well but both of us want to move forward together in this relationship. My problem is that I love my husband very much, he is my dear friend, we spend alot of time together and we get along incredibly well, we don't fight or call each other names but I don't feel the feelings I did before. I find I am bored with him, sometimes I feel like I am missing something, the passion is not there and s*x has become quick and thoughtless.

How do I start to rekindle the feelings I had for him before? Can that be done? How do I increase my self esteem and feel good about myself. How do I feel good about him? I want to make this work, I have to make this work.

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Very well written Messanger... It really hits home. Thanks

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Messanger, I feel badly for you having to go through this, you are a few weeks farther ahead than I am in my break up. I ended the relationship just over a week ago and I am really hurting today. I guess as time goes by and I expect to hear from him reality sets in and I realize he's not calling this is the hard part If you have read previous posts by me you know my situation , his lack of contact yet asking me not to leave and telling me he loves me. I really need to look ahead and appreciate my husband who loves me I know. We have had our problems in the past as I'm sure you have.

Hang in there Messanger maybe we can gain strength from each other.

Mystral, I love your comment about no more hamster-wheel thinking about hiim-him-him and how

can you truly love and be loved if you are a prisoner of your own mental habits. Maybe if I let those thoughts go then I can move forward in my relationship with my husband.

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Hi all, just wanted to check in and see how everyone was doing. Nothing really to update regarding my Virgo who I guess is no longer my Virgo so I'll just call him Virgo Man.

He had called me last Tuesday to give what now I feel is some bull**** story about his wife finding text messages on his phone because he just happened to leave his phone at home ...on ...while he went to Chicago overnight from Friday to Saturday. It still doesn't explain why he didn't answer my frantic messages on Thursday when he was home. Lots of things have been going through my mind this past week about him and I can't help but feel that he was afraid of me and what I represented to him. Cheating !! But in his mind maybe he was thinking that in order to not hurt me he would hope that I would just fade away. That way he wouldn't have to tell me he wasn't interested. I just don't understand why you would continue to tell someone you love them when that really wasn't the case. To all you men out there. Don't tell a woman you love her if you don't mean it. Just be honest please!!!! We'll get over you.

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Trice, All the best to you with your Scorpio , I have had experience with them. They are amazing lovers but can't seem to be satisfied with life and are always looking for the grass being greener on the other side. They also think they are smarter than anybody and can fool people. Sneaky little Scorpions. But even with all that if they love you they are incredibly loyal.

Sorry I pissed you off with my texts to mr. virgo I must admit I wasn't too happy myself but caved in a moment of weakness. You'll be happy to know I have not heard from him since the morning he called me last Tuesday. But I'm doing okay.

Hey Jen, got your message so am continuing to do some posting here. thx.

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