I was in a very bad past relationship & a good friend asked me. A very good question that I find myself thinking about alot. I don't know if you have children or not, but I have two little girls. I was asked what I would tell them if they where in a relationship like I was in. The answer that you would give your child. Is the answer to your question about your own relationship. because no matter what your child feels. You have their best in mind. So go with what you would tell your child.