thanks for your advise. complicated situations are not easy to aproach in the right way. somone will always get hurt . i think it hit me hard last night that im not being true to myself and in doing so lying to another person. i cant deny my heart from the truth in the long run it will be disasterous for everyone. now ive got to make the change before its too late.

well if you're not comfortable with the substances you use don't do it but if you like the conversations you can still try to be friends. what he does is his choice the same goes for you. many people try stuff it's a part of life. that doesn't mean you can be friends. it comes down to saying no it's not for me.

Heres the thing. I dont know up from down. im in love with a man i've known for 7 years, hes a great friend & lover . recently he introduced me to one of his friends . his friend and i became an item for the past few months . We moved in together and seperated. at that time the guy he hooked me up with moved in with him. now im seeing the seperated one just so i can see my friend of 7 years i dont want our freindships to get disturbed. this is a tripod of friends and lovers. i dont think the plan my friend had was to go this way. i dont think either one of us knew what was going to happen though. i care for this other guy but i cant give my all to him. my heart is with my friend. WHAT SHOULD I DO???