Being with family, no matter how distant, will give her a sense of belonging - something she has not had for a long while by the sounds of her situation. The support you will offer her will give her the strength to continue on with her life, minus her violent husband.
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RE: Healing and new beginnings
RE: CRAZY VIRGOS
I can relate too to the messy Virgo ... but I think this is because I have finally realised that I cannot control my environment whilst other people living in it (at least not totally!) so I have a house that has a definite 'lived in' look.
... and on the neurotic front, I do like my disinfectant spray and the door handles and anywhere that people put their hands get zapped, sometimes daily! (lol, I can control the bacteria!!)
RE: How do I cope with my16 year old
My heart goes out to you. Take a deep breath and then find someone that you can talk to and really pour your heart out to them. Then you need to draw the line there, it is done and moving forwards is the only way to go, even though it is going to be hard. ((( hug )))
Get her back home living with you - she will need the support that her dad isn't able to offer, but resist bad-mouthing dad to her/shouting at him (v. hard). Let her still visit him freely tho. I think a quick trawl of the web will give you some support groups that you could contact. These would be a good place to start I think. It will give you an idea of what help Social Services, DWP etc can offer your daughter. If she is still in school, you will need to let them know and find out what they can offer regarding further study (although it may be better to attend the local college as it is sure to have a creche and there will be less gossip/potential bullying).
It's not what you wished for your daughter, and probably not what she wished for either. However, it's happened and so go forward and make the best of it. Every cloud has a silver lining and I can think of nothing better than a grandchild!
Wishing you all the best. x
AnnaChiara - I raised my daughter the same way. She is a lovely young woman (14.5yrs) but yes, there are times when I just think 'Arghhhh!!!' :o$