I am in a similar situation. I met this guy over the internet last summer, and we've been "together" for almost a year now. I used to talk to him everyday, but this summer we have both been busy. We both have seen each other on webcam, and we were intending to meet this summer, but I dont think it will work out. I'm almost glad that hes not coming here to see me. I guess I'm just nervous that he wont feel attracted to me. If he doesnt like my personality then..oh well. :]
I think you should keep being just friends and see what happens. You never know. Something good might come out of this. But dont get too attached. You may just end up getting hurt over something small. Like for example, missing talking to him. I know how this feels, and I'm working on getting over it ^^; hehe. It makes me feel very childish, even though im still just a kid at heart :} And to answer your question....yes I think you're putting too much thought into this. Not matter how much you like him, and how amazing he may seem to be, he's not worth getting confused and nervous over. You dont really know him yet. Focus on other things, such as real life friends who DO love you.